We all need fantasies to be sure, but fantasies need to be considered with caution - and knowledge. As tigerrouge points out - by all means, look at magazines and enjoy them, but be realistic about them - those are not how people really look.
For example, fantasy won't overrule reality if, say, one of those teetering girls I saw on the street needed to run from someone. I saw one girl who was heavily under the influence of alcohol, and the lad with her was kindly helping her. But she was falling down on the street, her skirt was rising up, her underwear was exposed; it was totally embarrassing and sad. And what if the lad with her wasn't being so nice? She'd have little-to-no way to defend herself, even if she hadn't been drinking.
Women, and people generally, need to be smart about their fantasies. Overruling reality isn't always safe or wise.
If wearing stilettos, you can always take one off and use it as a weapon
Recently I watched a video of Miuccia Prada on Charlie Rose talking about wearing fashion to feminist gatherings and being active in the women's movement. I found this quite interesting giving the outrage here at her last collection harking back to the 50s. I think it's possible to do that in an ironic way--I've done it myself. Probably no one got it--I guess I was dressing for myself
__________________ Luxury is living a simple, elegant, and responsible life. Luxury is a reduction.
--Steven Volpe