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08-07-2013
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yeah- you said it!
resisting the sales is definitely difficult...

i find that pinning stuff can satisfy a craving though...
just like when i use something for a photo shoot, then i no longer feel the need to own it...
pinning stuff to my boards makes me feel like they are in my closet, in some way...
and, usually, i do have something very similar in my closet anyway, so it' all good!


i have found that pinning has also helped me really define different areas of my style...
and the more defined my style is, the easier it is to resist buying things that are adorable but just aren't 'me'

ie- went into a shop and tried on a pair of navy blue cotton shorts with white flamingos all over them...it was just the print of the fabric...
and it was a really dark french blue and the cotton was really light and almost sheer...
really cute- with cuffs and a fabric tie belt...
plus they fit great and were not too short, not too long...

BUT---i am not a flamingo shorts kind of girl...you know?!
...
i'm a yohji, black, kind of 'batwoman', kind of girl...
maybe if there were bats printed all over the shorts...???
who knows?!
...

but- OH!...they are SOOOO cute!!!...*for someone else!~
...

so i was able to resist...
...


**I'm glad it's helped you too Juliette!...hope you find your red dress...

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08-07-2013
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i had a bit of a shopping binge last weekend...
but to be honest, it felt like something i really needed.

I had quit my job last year and was job-searching at this time last year, so it had been awhile since i allowed myself to buy anything fresh and new to incorporate into my spring/summer wardrobe.
so, i bought a bunch of great summer dresses that i can wear to work and on weekends
I've already started wearing them and have received compliments galore from friends, family, and strangers alike.

well worth it

Having trouble finding pics online to share though! I managed to contain my spending to TJ Maxx so I got a lot for my money.
3 color-drenched Cynthia Rowley numbers (for only $25-$30 each, a really awesome deal imo)
lots more...

I feel like my Shopaholicism (or whatever we want to call it) has definitely improved. It's much easier for me to resist things when I know I don't need them or if I realize the styling will be difficult or not "me"

I think softgrey's point about pinning is really valid too...
especially for the things that are firmly out of my price range :p

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08-07-2013
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i stopped buying sleeveless or short sleeve dresses for the most part.

i hate freezing in air conditioned places...and then having to wear cardigans over them...or freezing in winter wearing them.

i think that's a good idea about pinning items...you can give yourself a reminder of an item and maybe catch it on the resale or secondary market. and it can give you a little time to think.

there is precious little that doesnt come up IMO, unless its a really old vintage item...

the only thing i am really kicking myself for not picking up the last 6 months or so is a lanvin postcard print dress from the 70's...i was a goddamn fool for not getting that one.

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17-07-2013
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chrissy- i know what you mean about the compliments...

randomly-
the cutest asian girl walked right up to me on the street the first time i wore my new wedges and complimented me...
*it's always nice to get compliments, but even nicer when it's someone whose style you also like...imo...
in that moment i felt like my waiting and waiting to find the right thing has definitely paid off and that it was, indeed, a good purchase...
any remaining doubts went out the window at that moment...
rah!
:p

i'm back on the wagon now, as i am planning a trip and need to save for that...
plus- shopping is not appealing in sweltering heat...
at least, not to me...

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20-09-2013
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i went through every designer floor at Barney's and did not even find one thing that i just had to have...

even at the comme store there wasn't much that made my heart skip a beat this season...too many peter pan collars...
there is a pair of high pointy toed wedges from junya that seem good, but i don't feel compelled to grab them...
i wanted something like that years ago, but i feel that the urge has somewhat subsided by now...

i've just made some very sensible purchases for fall and i think i will continue to do the alterations and adjustments on what i already have purchased and just wear those...

i thought i might get into trouble with the isabel marant x H&M collab, but it looks bloody awful, imho, so that's good...
...

i also gifted a see by chloe dress and an isabel marant blouse to friend, which always feels nice...they will be better on her because she is taller and can carry the volume better...
pay it forward! --- as they say...

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26-11-2013
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it's so weird...

i have moments when i am like-
i have everything i want ---oh yay...

then i am like-
i have too much stuff---i can't even remember everything...

then i'm like-
oooh!...look at all the cute stuff!- i want that...and that...and that......

schizo!

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06-12-2013
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I really want to be on a no buy until sales start but its like impossible.I need to be a recovering shopoholic too.any suggestions? I could resist to 30% off isabel marant jeans.then maybe there's still hope for me.

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14-12-2013
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it's so weird...

i have moments when i am like-
i have everything i want ---oh yay...

then i am like-
i have too much stuff---i can't even remember everything...

then i'm like-
oooh!...look at all the cute stuff!- i want that...and that...and that......

schizo!
THIS....this is so me. I go through phases. I've been in the third phase for awhile now. I can't resist. I love fall and winter style so much, I don't usually enjoy shopping in summer and spring as much. My addiction comes down to shoes and cozy sweaters. I can't resist buying boots in every type and color..wedges, flat, heeled, black, brown, cut-out, buckled, etc. I need to stop!

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the problem with me is that i purchase a glut of one genre of clothing at the expense of another.

i have a ton of bags, accessories & party dresses and workwear and dresses that can also double as workwear. i have a ton of leather jackets and outerwear.

however what i need are jeans (i wear the same 5 jeans all the time and they are showing wear the knees are getting all baggy and wornout) but i cant be motivated to get rid of them because good fitting jeans are hard to find and the ones i like are usually $150 each.

i also need sweaters. living in new england i have to wear sweaters at home daily (the thermostat is stuck at 61) begining to get sick of the sweaters i do own.

i also think i need more sleepwear and lingerie.

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I am exactly the same. I have a ton of skirts, but no tops to wear with them

My husband keeps telling me I am always buying slight variations on the same clothes too….

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19-12-2013
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funny-
i just did an exercise where i pulled out and put together all the bottoms that i have which are a similar shape...
ie- leggings, a line skirts, mini skirts, wide, cropped pant, track pants...

i can tell you that pulling them all out and looking at them really gave me some perspective...

i always seem to want more boots than i have though...
it used to be that i had just about 5 prs of boots but they went with everything in my closet and i loved them so much...i wore the same ones over and over and never even thought about any other boots...

but now, i always feel like i don't have exactly what i am looking for...
or i do, but i cannot wear it because of the weather...
*too cold, wet, snowy or what not...

i just don't know if there is such a thing as the perfect shoe anymore...
i would really like to have something that i wear nonstop like the ones i wore to death and eventually had to let go of...
but now, it seems like no matter how many pairs of boots or shoes i have, there is always something else...
it has become so annoying that i have avoided buying shoes ...

at least when i do finally get something, i wind up loving it to death...
but it's frustrating to feel like there are certain silhouettes i cannot wear because i lack the correct footwear...
..

so i don't even look at footwear for awhile...
but then when i finally give in and have a look, the things i like are already sold out in my size...
...
WTF?!?!

the coat thing is kinda similar as well for me...
no matter how many coats i have, i always feel like something is missing...

hahaa...
as part of the previous exercise, i have also discovered that i own three capes-
including the one i just purchased recently from YY...
oops- wait, i just remembered another one from TAO...
oh no!- and another plastic rain one...
...
yep- it's officially ridiculous~!

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20-01-2014
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MMM bracelet
af vandevorst boots
af vandevorst belt
marni earrings
and an ombre scarf in modal and cashmere...
i'm trying to find the strength to send most of this stuff back...

except the bracelet...
it's too good and that's final...

the belt, scarf and earrings are easier...
it's the boots that are the problem...
*sigh*...


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funny-
i just did an exercise where i pulled out and put together all the bottoms that i have which are a similar shape...
ie- leggings, a line skirts, mini skirts, wide, cropped pant, track pants...

i can tell you that pulling them all out and looking at them really gave me some perspective...

i always seem to want more boots than i have though...
it used to be that i had just about 5 prs of boots but they went with everything in my closet and i loved them so much...i wore the same ones over and over and never even thought about any other boots...

but now, i always feel like i don't have exactly what i am looking for...
or i do, but i cannot wear it because of the weather...
*too cold, wet, snowy or what not...

i just don't know if there is such a thing as the perfect shoe anymore...
i would really like to have something that i wear nonstop like the ones i wore to death and eventually had to let go of...
but now, it seems like no matter how many pairs of boots or shoes i have, there is always something else...
it has become so annoying that i have avoided buying shoes ...

at least when i do finally get something, i wind up loving it to death...
but it's frustrating to feel like there are certain silhouettes i cannot wear because i lack the correct footwear...
..

so i don't even look at footwear for awhile...
but then when i finally give in and have a look, the things i like are already sold out in my size...
...
WTF?!?!

the coat thing is kinda similar as well for me...
no matter how many coats i have, i always feel like something is missing...

hahaa...
as part of the previous exercise, i have also discovered that i own three capes-
including the one i just purchased recently from YY...
oops- wait, i just remembered another one from TAO...
oh no!- and another plastic rain one...
...
yep- it's officially ridiculous~!
This is the story of my life!

My wardrobe is bursting at the seams, I have taken over my sisters, my mums and various suitcases for seasonal items to rotate into but it my heart aches when there's something I really love. Even if it's something usually a very similar shape to what I have already...

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