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for three years I've been vegetarian and in early May of 2011 I became a vegan. it wasn't difficult at all for me to give up animal byproducts but I am getting so, so frustrated with my family and generally meat eaters around me who feel the need to pressure me and grill me on what it is exactly that I eat. my mother is supportive of me being a vegan which is important to me, but it's just everyone else around me that I can't stand all of the questions. and it's not like they're generally interested in what I eat - it's more like they're angry that I'm vegan.

I'm sure this question has been asked a million times but how do you deal with people around you that might get angry about your vegan/vegetarian eating habits? I try to not let it bother me, but inevitably it does.

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i also would mention that you are just concerned about the quality of the food you eat.

unfortunately in the US (and in many other countries) its perfectly legal for food products to contain a human hair additive which gives processed food their "bounce" etc. (thereby turning you into a cannibal) its also legal to use ammonia on ground beef or beef trimming to kill some germs while never listing it as an ingredient.

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I'm so glad you bring this up vandekamp. I constantly face scrunity from some family members. Most of the time, I handle it with light humour, but lately I've been triggered by certain comments and I've become very sensitive and frustrated.
Certain people have been pressuring me to eat fish, calling my choice to be vegan a religion and undermine my long term commitment to being vegan. As well they have been attempting to dispute my moral beliefs by asking absurd ultimatums--"oh if you are deserted on an island, and a lion is attacking a human, who would you shoot?" in order to illustrate that I am either a hyprocrite or a misanthrope. And most of the time, I get it, they want to agitate me...and it oftens works .
However, on the other hand, there are wonderful people in my life who support my decisions, and even offer to choose to eat at more vegan friendly restaurants, surprise me with vegan cupcakes and avoid making me feel inferior. I think I just ought to spend my time with those friends instead...


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^ i would yawn and say "didnt we already discuss this before?"

or say that this is a decision you have made after consulting your doctor.

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I certainly believe that you don't need to be vegan or vegetarian to see the sense in supporting someone's efforts to be more conscious about the food we're putting into our bodies.

If friends and family are wary about what a vegan lifestyle might involve, they only have to ask the person, instead of automatically deriding their choices - but for many, it seems easier to approach veganism as something unfamiliar that should be undermined, rather than an opportunity to see and explore new approaches towards food and life.

We don't have to share each other's behaviour in order to learn about the benefits and drawbacks of any particular lifestyle, we just have to have an open mind and be willing to listen.

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for three years I've been vegetarian and in early May of 2011 I became a vegan. it wasn't difficult at all for me to give up animal byproducts but I am getting so, so frustrated with my family and generally meat eaters around me who feel the need to pressure me and grill me on what it is exactly that I eat. my mother is supportive of me being a vegan which is important to me, but it's just everyone else around me that I can't stand all of the questions. and it's not like they're generally interested in what I eat - it's more like they're angry that I'm vegan.

I'm sure this question has been asked a million times but how do you deal with people around you that might get angry about your vegan/vegetarian eating habits? I try to not let it bother me, but inevitably it does.
It is usually based on the presumption that you believe that you are morally superior to them. The best way to deal with them is explain why you are a vegetarian in a calm demeanor and if they continue to be belligerent, it is best to ignore them.

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Babycakes is a nice bakery.
But I was not too in to the cookbook, it called for some hard to find ingredients ( Example:xanthan gum - for household baking? Seriously?) But I love Isa Chandra Moskowitz and her cookbooks/cupcake recipes are great and not as complicated.

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dauphine, i see that you live in NY. its very easy to get ingredients like that at kalustyans.

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That's true, as well as Dual Specialty Store, which is one of my favorites, but I don't like to have to schlep for specific ingredients. I'm having a dinner party tomorrow though and haven't settled on what dessert to make so maybe I should revisit it.

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I'm thinking of going vegan (I've been vegetarian for 5 years now) but I'm kinda addicted to instant cappucinnos which cointain skimmed powder milk. Do you guys consume skimmed powder milk?

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I've seen xanthum gum in WF. I've thought about buying some, but I use other kitchen-accessible binders... Kalustyan's is quite expensive, no?

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my mother is supportive of me being a vegan which is important to me, but it's just everyone else around me that I can't stand all of the questions. and it's not like they're generally interested in what I eat - it's more like they're angry that I'm vegan.
i would also add "i'm afraid we can't discuss another word of this - my mother will think you are questioning her parenting skills".

that should shut them up.

Teja, i dont use powdered milk. powdered or boxed milk is not used very often by americans or canadians. parmalot and other similar products wasnt even available where i live until around 2005 or so. our normal milk industry is subsidized so fresh milk is cheap enough to buy. for my coffees i use soy cream.

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I've seen xanthum gum in WF. I've thought about buying some, but I use other kitchen-accessible binders... Kalustyan's is quite expensive, no?
It is, and I don't really hang out in Gramercy, so it's never convenient to go there. I much prefer Dual Specialty Store on 1st ave, but I am not sure if they have xantham gum. I buy all my tea and spices there.

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i would also add "i'm afraid we can't discuss another word of this - my mother will think you are questioning her parenting skills".

that should shut them up.

Teja, i dont use powdered milk. powdered or boxed milk is not used very often by americans or canadians. parmalot and other similar products wasnt even available where i live until around 2005 or so. our normal milk industry is subsidized so fresh milk is cheap enough to buy. for my coffees i use soy cream.
So I shouldn't use it either? There aren't any vegan (powdered milk free) cappuccinos where I live.

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Powered milk is still an animal product no? It's up to you, if you love your cappucinos, far be it from me to deny you the pleasure of having it.

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