How to Join
the Fashion Spot / the Style Spot / Personal Style
FAQ Calendar Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read Rules Links Mobile How to Join
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
14-10-2004
  1
backstage pass
 
BabyJ's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Montreal
Gender: femme
Posts: 1,037
So today I have to go to a wake and then tomorrow I have a funeral and I have no clue what to wear. A few years ago I would have been able to find all black with no problem at all but now I have added so much colour to my closet that I just don't know.

I have a nice dark brown pants suit for the funeral but it is a bit tight around the waist thanks to my gaining weight. No time to get it altered. And then I have a blue pant suit but its too loose thanks to losing weight.

I have a mid leg black skirt that I can pair with a dark top but the weather is going to be rainy and cold tomorrow for the funeral.

What would you wear and what is your opinion on wearing colour to these things, and by colour I don't mean hot pink and yellow.

  Reply With Quote
 
14-10-2004
  2
offline.
 
Luna's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: the world
Gender: femme
Posts: 9,821
I guess it's tradition to wear black... But dark colors are accepted. Just don't look like you came in off the street in your jeans and a pink T-shirt.

What about the skirt and pair of leggings and boots?

__________________
...and I will be strong even when it all goes wrong.

  Reply With Quote
14-10-2004
  3
V.I.P.
 
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: New York
Gender: homme
Posts: 8,313
I wore a black pinstriped blazer, black knee-length skirt, black tights and black flats to my last funeral, if that gives you any ideas. Do you have a jacket to wear with the skirt, to keep you at least a little warmer? That's what I'd suggest...

__________________
no fun
  Reply With Quote
14-10-2004
  4
V.I.P.
 
purplelucrezia's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Gender: femme
Posts: 15,790
I'd stick with the skirt, just to err on the safe side. Wear a coloured sweater with it maybe, but of a darker tone. Like deep maroon, or brown or dark purple maybe. Keep everything else black though, stockings, etc. Tie your hair back and keep the jewelry elegant and minimal. If you have it, I'd pair the outfit with fitted black jacket, maybe peacoat style.

__________________
(\_/)
(O.o)
(> <) This is Bunny. Copy Bunny into your signature to help him on his way to world domination.
  Reply With Quote
14-10-2004
  5
backstage pass
 
BabyJ's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Montreal
Gender: femme
Posts: 1,037
Thanks for the ideas.

I am going to wear a black pant suit to the wake today, that outfit is already in my car waiting for it to be time to go.

I guess for tomorrow I will go ahed and try the black skirt. I'm not a fan of leggings. But I do have tall boots and a fitted black coat.

  Reply With Quote
30-09-2006
  6
V.I.P.
 
Trista's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Seattle area
Gender: femme
Posts: 4,615
Usually a wake is less formal so colours would be more accepted-a funeral would probably be most traditional so blacks, navys, browns, etc. would work. And then there was the memorial for my grandpa where if you wore black you stuck out like a sore thumb-my cousin wore all white, my dad and uncle wore Tommy Bahama shirts, my aunt wore beige, my brother wore plaid, my mom wore a blue/green dress, and I wore a BRIGHT (hot pink to the next level) top with olive green pants.

So I guess it depends on the family-call ahead and ask about dress codes, if they are expecting all black or if colour is okay. Ask what they are wearing-if they are wearing black, then keep the colour to a minimum. If they are wearing colours, then wear colours but don't do what I did (I got away with it since I was family and the memorial was not about crying and shedding 259273tseg3 tears, but celebrating the life (and noting every quirk).

__________________
Kiki's Beauty World Please remember: NO bolding of my name, as it gives me headaches.
mandzhieva*cassi v.d.d*burdeu*d.miller*poly*nasenyana
  Reply With Quote
2 Weeks Ago
  7
flaunt the imperfection
 
softgrey's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: downtown...
Gender: femme
Posts: 51,280
what to wear...?
my great aunt (90 yrs old) passed away and the funeral and wake are this week...

we hardly ever talk about this kind of thing but it's a fact of life that we all have to deal with from time to time...

i've been to a LOT of them by now...

my mom recently found some black lace head scarves from "the old country" which used to belong to my grandmother...
very dolce and gabbanna...

i'm debating whether or not to wear one...
frankly...it seems appropriate...
she was a sicilian widow, after all...
and she always dressed sexy...all the way until the end...
i think that she'd totally appreciate it...


__________________
"It is not money that makes you well dressed: it is understanding."
ChristianDior




Last edited by softgrey; 2 Weeks Ago at 04:18 PM.
  Reply With Quote
2 Weeks Ago
  8
Power to the 99%
 
fashionista-ta's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Hardly ever at Barney's
Gender: femme
Posts: 14,096
Then why not?


I don't think all black is necessary for any funeral, but I think the rules also all change when someone dies very late in life. At that point, you're really just celebrating their life. When my great-grandmother died at 96, my grandmother wore a slightly subdued (not bright) red with white star print silk dress to the funeral. When my grandfather died at 70, she definitely was mourning, and she wore a rust windowpane (I think with black and brown) two-piece dress to the funeral, and looked very dignified. He had totally nagged her to buy something new (he had cancer for years, so everything was planned to the nth degree), but she refused, and I do see her point now. Who wants to see something hanging in your closet and remember that you bought it for the occasion of a funeral? Much better to wear something you've worn for many different occasions.

__________________
There's a need for more individuality today, and my job is to cater to women, not dictate to them.
--Alber Elbaz

Last edited by fashionista-ta; 2 Weeks Ago at 10:51 PM.
  Reply With Quote
2 Weeks Ago
  9
tfs star
 
Melisande's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Paris/Tokyo
Gender: femme
Posts: 1,671
Quote:
Originally Posted by fashionista-ta View Post
Then why not?
Who wants to see something hanging in your closet and remember that you bought it for the occasion of a funeral? Much better to wear something you've worn for many different occasions.
Very true!
It depends on the culture--in Japan only formal black would be tolerated, and children are expected to be in their school uniforms. A friend of mine who'd just gotten some flashy nail-art done had to wear gloves to cover it up. I've heard my mother and her friends talking about getting "Just-in-case-dresses" on sale, before they were actually needed, lol. I always wear enough dressy black to not have to worry about that.

Personally, if I'm not in Japan and I was very close to the person, another option is that I'd wear what she/he would have most appreciated.

Softie, I'm sorry for your loss...your great-aunt sounds like a fabulous lady! The black lace headdresses sound beautiful. Super-curious and would love to know how you'd style them!!!

  Reply With Quote
Reply
Previous Thread | Next Thread »

Tags
funeral, wake
Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

monitoring_string = "058526dd2635cb6818386bfd373b82a4"


 
All times are GMT -5. The time now is 02:25 PM.
Powered by vBulletin®
Copyright ©2000 - 2015, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
TheFashionSpot.com is a property of TotallyHer Media, LLC, an Evolve Media LLC company. 2015 All rights reserved.