^ What answers I do have, it has taken me many years to find
I have never read The Secret, but yes, it's more or less the same stuff. Esther Hicks was in the original 'The Secret' movie/series/whatever it was, but was cut out when she was told to sign over all her intellectual property rights or be cut. I 'do not approve'

of the way The Secret's author has conducted herself so I prefer to get the information from other sources. I go by the vibe I get. When you start looking into esoteric stuff, you find
* people who seem to have good intentions
* people whose intentions seem more nebulous and self-serving
* people with a 'witchy' vibe--no offense, but not my cup of tea
I do my best to stick with the first category. I wasn't going to say any more about this, but as long as I am

It's been awhile since the traffic thing, but one other thing I did besides the journal during those weeks ... whenever I got stuck in traffic I would visualize it coming unsnarled and unwinding in that mysterious way it does, and flowing like it should.
It's really all a matter of getting yourself aligned with that flow.
As far as the situation you find yourself in, it's a little hard for me to tell how much is missing your family (some separation is just part of growing up and getting your own life) and how much is real discomfort with the situation you find yourself in, which would be a genuine signal from within to change it ...