Read your 60 page North Node section in a book called Astrology for the Soul by Jan Spiller. The sooner you understand your past life patterns the more you will understand about your inherent approach to life and ways you can change in order to grow more towards your North Node. You can also read about other people's nodes (your family, friends, lovers, exes etc) so you can get how the other person is just being themselves, doing either their South or North Node and what they are doing is not really your concern. Likewise, if people don't like your inherent nature or don't think you should do things associated with your North Node, that is not their business either.
http://www.amazon.com/Astrology-Soul...1782841&sr=8-1