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The comment was really not intended to be offensive but at the time my mindset was that I was posting on a comment that referred to him and her as handsome and pretty respectively and my own previous comment, "I agree that we should not comment negatively about a model's [loved one's] appearance, but I don't even get how he is unattractive... he looks good [to me]" which was one of the first, if not the first post to express that sentiment. However if people found it offensive then I am glad that it was deleted. As far as how you "don't understand how [I ] cannot see that [my] remark could easily be considered disrespectful and distasteful," again consider my aforementioned mindset and numerous comments in that thread with yuck and sick smilies and even kinder comments along the lines of "beauty being in the eye of the beholder" and "well as long as she is happy."

I think that it is deep... very deep... very, very deep that the "post was found to be offensive by several moderators as well as members at large" and yet other comments in that thread were not, the only thing that I can think of that differentiates that post is that a comment was made about the model herself and I consider myself a modelphile, but woah at the stan-ism that that reaction implies, basically you cannot refer to a model as a pretty simian or to her being associated with a (camp) classic film, but you can make awful comments about the non-industry / non-celebrity guy who falls in love with her and the other poor guys who share his name and have the misfortune of popping up in a google search, that's real deep. As far as reporting that post, there are mod comments in that thread and they are in and around some of the posts that I am referring to and also the thread is a spin off of the model's thread and negative comments about guy(s) who were mis-identified as the man in question were brought over, so even though I found those comments offensive and cringe-worthy, I assumed that I needed to get over my squeamishness on that front.