Maureen O'Donnell wrote a very interesting book called "An Affair To Remember" a few years back...She was a beautiful young journalist who interviewed Cary and they started dating, eventually living together and he repeatedly asked her to marry him...The book goes into why she said no...He was charming and marvelous, but could be very critical and petty, worried about everything, made her go out and buy hot dogs that were on sale for dinner when he had hundreds of millions of dollars, drank too much on occasion and became very abusive toward her...And evidently had police run-ins that were covered up- one involving a young man, you can fill in the blanks... He was not a lot of fun to be close to, from many accounts, but was wonderful and brilliant at many times as well....Maureen loved him desperately but said she could not spend her life with him- it was just too crazy... It is actually a wonderful, loving book, but she pulled no punches, either...