Fashion And Age - Appropriate Dressing

[just_me]

i think it's good to look around you see what inspire you, like street style someone you think is well dressed, look at details like where their tops fall, good dressing is usually about proportion.

If you have a slim figure structured clothing will look good on you, if you are curvier it's harder as you can't wear everything.

What do you have in your wardrobe.. and waht do you feel is missing? A genaral rule is to stay FAR away from high street shops-- save yor money and buy on the internet when you can then you wont be persuaded to buy what all others are wearing.

Dress for yourself-noone else, I know this is very hard when you are young.

 

[Whitelinen]

i think it's good to look around you see what inspire you, like street style someone you think is well dressed, look at details like where their tops fall, good dressing is usually about proportion.

If you have a slim figure structured clothing will look good on you, if you are curvier it's harder as you can't wear everything.

What do you have in your wardrobe.. and waht do you feel is missing? A genaral rule is to stay FAR away from high street shops-- save yor money and buy on the internet when you can then you wont be persuaded to buy what all others are wearing.

Dress for yourself-noone else, I know this is very hard when you are young.

Excuse me, but you are confusing fat and curvy. I am slim, but I have definite hips, waist and breasts (size B European size). I'm an hourglass shape, but I only weight around 52 kgs/166 cm which is slim. Of course it is easy to wear everything if you are straight from up to down... but only a small percent of women are like that. So in your words to most of the women it is hard to find clothes, if they are not build like twelve-year-olds. Curvy does not mean fat, as you are implying here. Fat is a completely different thing.

I cannot buy from the internet as it is too risky and I am still underage. To be honest I am not sure whether I will be buying from the internet even when I can - people did manage to be well-dressed before eBay all that jazz.

Hmm... I don't find it hard to dress for myself although I am young. Although I am a certain age that does not mean I stereotypically do, experience or am certain things. Please do not try to belittle.

 

[crepebacksatin]

whitelinen - it's hard to have guidelines for fit in my opinion, since everyone is shaped differently, as you said. i am also thin yet hourglass, but i'm sure what looks fab on me wouldn't always look fab on you, know what i mean?

you may find it helpful to go piece-by-piece and try on a ton of stuff in whatever it is you're focusing on to help you figure out which shapes work for you and which don't. for example, maybe you want to start with pants, as they're notoriously difficult. then narrow it down to casual/more formal. so maybe it'd be jeans/trousers. then take a day and just try on things in a ton of different shapes in those categories to see what flatters. eventually you'll find what works, what works on a good day, and what will probably never, ever work

once you figure out which shapes/cuts flatter, then you can focus on color and fabric. what colors look good with your complexion/hair/etc? what's the climate like where you are? what do you do from day-to-day? all will help to figure out what works for you...

once you know these things, shopping for basics will be a LOT less painful. and once you have great basics, you can often dress them up or down, make them more youthful-looking or more adult-looking to adapt to your age/situation/preference with accessories and/or statement pieces (a phenomenal, super-interesting coat, a great scarf, funky tights, a gorgeous pair of boots)...

if you do it this way, i guarantee you will always look and feel your best.

but it takes time and experimentation to get to that point

 

[Whitelinen]

Yes, but isn't there still an etiquette that exists? What was the etiquette for appropriate dressing during the 50's and the 60's? That's when people dressed well in my mind - and that's why I want to follow their ways and rules, although I realise we are living the 00's (of which style I don't like).

But thank you for the advice I already had been planning for that, but my problem is that I never see anything working for me.

 

[laika]

I think this is going OT.

White Linen, why don't you look at this book--A guide to elegance: for every woman who wants to be well and properly dressed on all occasions.

It's from the early 60's. I think she even mentions a few aspects of age-appropriate dressing, although that's not the main focus of the book.

 

[Whitelinen]

I think this is going OT.

Definetily yes.

I would check the thread, but the link doesn't work... are there actual texts posted? Because I am quite sure there are only limited chances I can find it from a bookshop here, and as I said, I will not and can not order online.

 

[laika]

Here is the link again. There are sample excerpts, and you can search inside the book. You might just find it in a local bookstore--it was recently republished and has been quite popular.

 

[mme]

Aww, come on. Especially at this age you don't have a lot of money, and you cannot just buy everything you wish. You have to think about investing. And plus, why does everyone instantly think I want to experiement? I want a good basic style, that's all. Just because I am young does not mean I want to try trends or walk around in miniskirts.

Perfectly said. Even if I wanted to experiment, I wouldn't be able to afford it half the time.

 

[laurette]

What do you think about real fur on adolescents?

 

[softgrey]

depends on the age..
and the fur...

a short jacket could be cute in a less ostentatious style...
like maybe something sport with a hood..
but a full length mink is just a bit too much...
...

i think white rabbit coats are really cute on little girls though...

 

[cosmogrl5]

^ I had a faux fur coat when I was a very little girl. It came with this matching hat that tied under my chin. It was precious.

 

[luckyme]

for over 45 is a short black mini(ish)skirt appropriate with black tights? not full blown mini per se but darn close. I think it might work if its funky and cute, worn with tall flat boots, but has to stay far away from sexy.

oh, I had a fake fur muppet coat as a young girl and the neighbors dog wanted to have an affair with it when I was wearing it. scared the hell out of me...

 

[Antigone]

In my opinion, mini skirts are a no-no for women over 40. But that's just me. However, knee-length would be fine.

 

[laika]

for over 45 is a short black mini(ish)skirt appropriate with black tights? not full blown mini per se but darn close. I think it might work if its funky and cute, worn with tall flat boots, but has to stay far away from sexy.

oh, I had a fake fur muppet coat as a young girl and the neighbors dog wanted to have an affair with it when I was wearing it. scared the hell out of me...

With opaque black tights and boots, I see absolutely no problem, especially given your lovely figure, lady! If you are really concerned, I would also compensative by wearing something more voluminous on top...I notice softgrey does this with the Isabel Marant mini (which is super short).

 

[luckyme]

yes, laika...that's exactly what works for me, you're brilliant . I also don't go too mini just about 3.5" or 4" above the knee. I was asking in the first place because I bought a really fun a-line short skirt with a single big pocket by anna molinari recently and when I tried it on without tights...yikes . but today I am wearing it with black ribbed opague tights, a Dries sweater that is very trapezey from last winter season (Im sure you know the one I mean!!) and of course my winter yucky day boots the Docs...and its fab

thanks so much for the input, it means a lot.

 

[laurette]

luckyme I don't see a problem in wearing a black mini at your age either as long as it's not too short or the combination tacky (which looks wrong at every age).
Your combination sounds great imo! I also like the way Carine Roitfeld wears them.


btw, I wore my fur coat yesterday and today because I'm sick and it's freezing...I got many weird stares on the street

 

[fashionista-ta]

bump

 

[Jane Loves Marc]

I hear all of the time that my style is not age-appropriate-that 16 year old girls shouldn't be wearing Comme Des Garcons and Dries Van Noten!! Perhaps there is some truth to this but at the end of the day I just wear what I find most beautiful.
Maybe sometimes I look a little funny in my clothes and out of place with friends my age...but you have to do what makes you happy! If I dressed the way most teenage girls are expected to I think I'd be awfully depressed and angry.

 

[fashionista-ta]

^ Good for you

I dressed "older" when I was your age too, and people often thought I was in college rather than high school ... some of us are just harder to categorize

 

[loves]

i dressed old when i was younger too. i wish i can turn back the clock and dressed my age because i can't wear those fashions anymore. now i try to dress younger, within reason of course, because if i don't do it now i'll never get to dress like this again in a few years' time. eg. i don't do micro-minis anymore, even though i'm the same size now as i was over a decade ago. it just doesn't look right on me anymore. but i'll be darned if i were to stick to classics..unless the mood strikes; i'll do that when i'm much much older