Once upon a time, there was a girl named Amanda. She liked to wear black both for what she considered to the the slimming benefits, and because it assisted in laundry sorting. There was delicate, non, and dry. She loved to look ultra-fem, and tried her hardest to remember such golden rules as "always tie your boots before your corset," "you are not Robert Smith," and "zombie-makeup is not so complimentary."
Regarding blondes rocking the goth look, it can be sexy. It can strong. Just please don't let it be Stevie Nicks.
In highschool, I wore a huge silver jolly roger ring. I've since upgraded to huge gold with diamond cross ring. I'm never looking back, either. Most goths I know despise gold. They're all about the black and white. I personally started loving gold maybe... five years ago? But then I'm also reformed. (Oh, but I'm STILL looking for my perfect sacred heart.)
Another thing that I always have and always will love is white. Full on gear done in pure snow white is more eye-catching in a club full of black, and it can swing the way from virginal to ice princess to lushy cyber vixen.
Regarding corsets, if you want a fashion corset, I would check out the underpants shops or ren stores near you. Many can order from catalogues or keep other supplies in the back. Go in, explain what you want, and let the clerk do what they're paid to. Victoria's, Frederick's, any sort of leather or fetish shop. I like going to smaller shops, I find that they're more eager to help (due to competition and valuing you as a patron,) and if they can't help you they generally have a pretty good idea of who can. If you have any sort of smaller gothy businesses, any victorian inspired shops, anything with bridal sets even. I find that some of the large underwear chains REALLY overprice for what you get, but I'm the sort who will pay big for it to last forever. You do want to be careful that whatever you get has a return policy or some level of customer service. If improperly fitted, the corset WILL chafe. Horrifically. Even if you powder or wear a liner.
Corset Links
PrettyPretty
www.gothicasylum.com
www.asylum7.net (on the serious side of pretty-pretty)
www.flamingangels.com
www.crimsongypsy.com
www.badattitude.com
InItToWinIt
www.absolutecorsets.com
www.corsetconnection.com
www.darkgarden.com
www.galleryserpentine.com
www.realcorsets.com
http://www.versatilefashions.com/
www.corsetmaker.com
Some other places I would check if you want to find resources, is your local goth community website. Most major cities do have online communities that can help you find the shops that are going to be most targeted to what sort of look you would exactly like.
http://www.toronto-goth.com/ is the local one here.
I've found that most of the really good loli stuff is either custom done, or from Japan.
Few other sites you can try:
A Noir Heavy Red (sort of cheese, but potential)
divinity designs - i've always been fond of havarti.
And hey, squaredancing suppliers are untapped resources. No, I'm not kidding. :|
This is also a really good article that came out a couple of years back on the look. I bookmarked it, I liked it so much!
Morbid Outlook - EGL article from 2002.
Sooo... Good luck with the look, and I hope to see some piccies!
your pics...the make up is awesome and the earrings are perfect...good job...how fun...thx for sharing..
....that sounds like so much fun...!!!...lucky you...any pics to share?... 
