Well i went ahead with the advice of lots of thin highlights and im so happy with the result! The hairdresser couldn't getting it too much lighter as my hair was so dark but the roots are barely noticable now and in a few weeks i can go lighter again! Thanks alot! 

I just went and got a consultation with my stylist and he said it will take 5 hours..yikes! But I am excited for a change. Anyone have any horror stories?
I'd love to have reddish blonde hair. It's kinda celtic. Whatever happens, I guess you just have to work with it. I imagine keeping it shiny instead of dull would really enhance it.