Poll: how important are your looks to you

[Kimkhuu]

In high school I didn't necessarily consider myself attractive. I always thought I was weird looking. Well you know, there are days when you wake up and your hair is not the way you want it to be and you just feel really terrible. Especially when having people (like your mom ) constantly telling you it's so *sad* that you don't have light light skin because mine looks dirty (my skin tone is like similar to JLo), and constantly saying nasty things like that. It's ridiculous.

Now that I am over that whole phase and not paying attention to people like that surrounding me, and really listening to the voice inside of me telling I am so beautiful, I've really changed. Inside out. I could wear the most dreadful stuff and no makeup and still feel cool. I know this sounds cheesy, but I know often lots of guys check me out, like "Look at that chick" , but I am not like pretty in a nasty way, not at all, and I think that having a brain really does help. What I mean by that is that I just don't let whatever guys hit on me just for fun.

 

[POTC_ROXS]

I believe everyone has beauty, inside and out, and it will shine through no matter what clothes you wear or how many layers of make up are on ur face.

 

[model_mom]

When your young,many people think how they look is so important. It's seen as a way to get your foot in the door to many social situations. It takes a very confident person to realize that this is not the case. Looks do get you in the door but there had better be something upstairs to keep you there. The really intelligent kid doesn't want in the door in the first place. He/she has got a lot more going on in their life to bother.

 

[fouroclock]

Looks are important to me. I mean, I don't really take care of my looks. But if I ever get into an accident which damages my face, I would definitely. Kill. Myself. B)

 

[sugarcoma]

Part 1: Very important.

Part 2: Somewhat attractive. If I am completely honest with myself and the rest of the world I get lots of compliments on my looks, be it people just looking at me or whistling or some people just say it, but unfortunately it doesn't mean that I always like myself. I do grow into my looks though ... I have really fair skin but it looks good with my hair (which is nearly black or reddish depending on the light), I have grown to accept my eyes which are sort of sad moon shaped, I like that look now (also I like the colour ... really clear blue with a dark rim, intense apparantly, I got 'Don't look at me like that' comments in the past when I looked in an all normal way, my lips aren't perfect but at least they fit my face and are soft and pouty, my cheekbones are high, my hair is shiny, dense and healthy and my body is okay, too. I sort of dislike my nose but I guess I will accept it because quirks are lovely (like freckles or slightly imperfect teeth). This sounds like I am very confident and yes, most of the time I like my looks and I guess I look interesting, but there are always days when I haven't slept enough and am menstruating -> I feel fat and bloated, I am extra pale (= nearly white) and have dark circles under my eyes, these are the days when I just want to exit my body but ... I will grow.

 

[Elli]

Looks are important to me. I mean, I don't really take care of my looks. But if I ever get into an accident which damages my face, I would definitely. Kill. Myself. B)

Me too. Even though I feel it's kind of a weak thing to say or do, to not go on just because of a thing like that. But that's ok with me...

 

[snowqueen]

Its werid I think my looks are important yet i make no effort what so ever to look nice, I dont wear make up every day, my hair is normally tied up. I would say my figure is more important to me

 

[Super_soz]

Part 1- Very Important

Part 2- Somewhat good looking. I think how attractive I feel is completely dependent on the vibe I get from people around me. For instance, If I get loads of attention and compliments then I feel really confident and happy with my looks but if I dont get that attention my confidence plumits. I know thats quite shallow but I cant seem to change how it is.
Ive also always had a problem with dating really attractive or stylish men. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a few months now and he has an amazing sense of style- I thought I was pretty stylish myself before I met him! Now it feels like no matter what, I constantly worry that he's not satisfied with what I'm wearing.
Its maybe just my insecurity that makes me feel that way..actually I'm sure it is. And it's not doing my credit cards any favours...

 

[eternitygoddess]

My confidence over my looks this year received major setbacks but now that I'm over that period of time, I can honestly among Asians I'm very good-looking. My looks are important to me, but I don't spend every minute of the day staring at myself in the mirror. (Okay okay, maybe a few minutes with the mirror now and then).

I have extremely dark brown hair and most of the time it looks black, fair skin, and delicate features. Even though at times I don't think I'm attractive, I wouldn't want to trade my looks for anyone else's. My parents think I'm already too good looking for my own good so they don't allow to wear any makeup or revealing/trendy clothes. Everyone at school thinks I dress weird.

 

[girlpossessed]

Especially when having people (like your mom ) constantly telling you it's so *sad* that you don't have light light skin because mine looks dirty (my skin tone is like similar to JLo), and constantly saying nasty things like that. It's ridiculous.

my mum calls me podgy or fat sometimes and tells me my complexion is 'diabolical'
i sometimes think i'm OK, but sometimes i just think i'm disgustingly ugly
depends on my mood
i have weird teeth where they've grown on the front two they're brown at the tips. not unhealthy, just weirdly coloured. but that makes me very self-concious sometimes.

 

[fashionista-ta]

In high school I didn't necessarily consider myself attractive. I always thought I was weird looking. Well you know, there are days when you wake up and your hair is not the way you want it to be and you just feel really terrible. Especially when having people (like your mom ) constantly telling you it's so *sad* that you don't have light light skin because mine looks dirty (my skin tone is like similar to JLo), and constantly saying nasty things like that. It's ridiculous.

Now that I am over that whole phase and not paying attention to people like that surrounding me, and really listening to the voice inside of me telling I am so beautiful, I've really changed. Inside out. I could wear the most dreadful stuff and no makeup and still feel cool. I know this sounds cheesy, but I know often lots of guys check me out, like "Look at that chick" , but I am not like pretty in a nasty way, not at all, and I think that having a brain really does help. What I mean by that is that I just don't let whatever guys hit on me just for fun.

I'm really glad you are disregarding the non-positive input from your mom. I got similar stuff from mine when I first hit puberty and my lips and rear started to fill out--she told me I had the lips of a black person and a bubble butt. Come to find out, looking at old pictures of her, she'd had the same lips when she was about 20 or so, but they got thinner as she got older. Mine have stayed fuller, although I think they're not quite as full now as they were then. I love them, always have, and others tell me they and my smile are one of my best features. So for those of you who are getting this kind of criticism from Mom, remember that the most likely reason is ... JEALOUSY. And then take it to the trash and leave it there--it's not about you. It is very sad when a parent attacks the self-worth of his or her own child at a vulnerable time. Be glad you are not the kind of person who would do that.

 

[fashionista-ta]

Me too. Even though I feel it's kind of a weak thing to say or do, to not go on just because of a thing like that. But that's ok with me...

I would most definitely NOT. I have always believed that the most important part of me was inside. Being strong and having courage has always been important to me, and I would never admit to not being strong enough to deal with adversity

 

[pucci_mama]

I do think i am attractive, maybe over average, i could have a few things done, but i am pretty happy with myself.

When i was younger in school i used to hate the attention i got from guys, i still do to an extent, i guess it's just a confidence thing...

hmm.. from i was 14 to about 16 i messed around with a lot of guys then i fell in love met this one guy, and he broke my heart, i think that really hurt the image of myself, so i started to wear really baggy almost pysjams-like chlothes going to school just so the guys woulden't comment on my bum or slap it, they used to do that a lot.. you know how guys are like..

But as ive gotten older, i am turning 20.. then i have learned that my looks plus my personality really makes me irresistible, i mena i have gotten the guys i have gone after in my life, shoulden't that tell me something?

At the same time i know im not the prettiest girl, i am really petite, and people have always commented on it, but i really don't care about it, i wear flats on a daily basic, and at teh end of the day i think confidence is the most attractive thing.

I don't really know if that made sence what i just said.

 

[i_<3_chanel]

pucci are we twins ?

i hate attention frm men !

 

[Curious]

...and at teh end of the day i think confidence is the most attractive thing.

I don't really know if that made sence what i just said.

Makes perfect sense, Pucci

 

[fashionicon]

I'm happy with myself.

I did a speech last year about "The Survival of the Prettiest".

Attractive people are more likely to be forgiven, to be helped, and more likely to be liked....even by people who don't even like them. Even babies prejudge based on looks. It's such an interesting topic to me.

Though attractive people are at first treated better, I'm sure personality catches up in the long run.

When it comes to clothes, however, I feel someone who takes care of themselves by, for example dressing nicely, obviously cares about themselves. This gives off confidence, and there's nothing sexier than that.

 

[pucci_mama]

pucci are we twins ?

i hate attention frm men !

It's so weird...

some girls seem to love it though, like when me and my mates go out, they love the attention. I know im problaby weird... but i actually find it insulting unless it's done in a really sweet way.

I would be like 'how dare you?!'

Thanks Curious, for getting where i was coming from, so sweet, i was sure people would be like: What is she on about??..

 

[auddie]

Although looks are important to me, I find if I like someone's personality they seem a lot more attractive and good-looking.

 

[notmanons]

This is a very interesting thread

 

[Bambam]

I don't know. I know it goes without saying, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure there are some people that find me attractive, and others who don't. Kind of like the men I go for -- the most gorgeous guy I've ever seen, to someone else, they might not "get it".

I try to take very good care of myself. I dress well, I wear a nice subtle perfume, I wear makeup, and I try to do the little things that make me feel good about myself.

There are loads of pretty girls that don't see themselves the way that many others do, and some not-so-pretty girls that think they're wonderful. I hate to get all Miss America on everyone, but I think every person should find their beauty and own it. All that matters is how YOU feel about you.

I try to appreciate whatever it is I have, even if I feel self-conscious sometimes. Try being the operative word.

I don't necessarily think that looks are the main attractor of the opposite sex. Girls that are bubbly and sexy and confident will probably attract more attention than very physically beautiful people who are meek and reserved. People like people who stroke their egos, and people who are fun and exciting - this goes beyond looks.

Sometimes I feel a bit ridiculous if someone pays me tons of compliments about my physical appearance because I wonder if it can be genuine. Particularly with guys. Thinking that people always want something.