^ reading that story really pissed me off.. and his alleged behavior had little to do with it. I know that in every good social movement, it's only a matter of time before it gets polluted by different interests, but some of the people "sharing" encounters with famous people that went sour should just do the movement a favor and maybe save their story for later. This type of people (plus the one that was okay going out with Matt Lauer while he was married- until it was not okay and she felt retro-embarrassment) are down there with the predators, all opportunistic people that, if anything, add more material to those hoping to discredit women finally having the opportunity able to speak up. A 10% of me is actually wondering if the Russians are behind this
, they infiltrated BLM with violence in order to debilitate it after all. I know I will probably get some "how dare you" reply because a movement where any micro-movement equals good movement makes any criticism
bad criticism but I truly wanted to scream at the top of my lung reading that story. Before being a man or a woman, we're humans.. gross, stupid humans in this genderless hamster wheel called society that sometimes will let fame and money blind us and act purely based on that, and it shows in many of these cases.
I hate entering PG-13 territory but it seems to me that some dates with a stranger followed by sex is always a little bit awkward, sex with someone new for the first time also needs synching.. now sex with someone you just met, as an adult, requires some "alert" system in function, getting the f*ck out is never NOT an option. How are we living in times when we can comfortably rationalize and immediately condemn this story is beyond me "
ok, we're eating but he abruptly ends everything and we go all the way to his place even though I'm not 100% into the idea, and we arrive and.. it's a bit awkward, but I undress anyway, and it's now uncomfortable but let's wait until he undresses, ok, we're now having sex and.. it's still pretty uncomfortable, ok, he's kissing me and surprise, still doesn't feel good, it actually feels.. uncomfortable too!, now he's going to try a different way of having sex.. man I'm uncomfortable, ok he's going to try way #4 of having sex and god it's awkward".. I'm sorry but is this a person? is it a foam roller? do they come with legs? is she 3 years old? this is exactly what some people, with another agenda, another mentality and another generation I couldn't care less for tried to say with "infantilizing women".. reducing a need to address actual harassment, from the vile to the sand grain one, to this point where women are poor little creatures never capable of decision making or accountability in front of a man because men are oh-so-powerful sex-starved villains that know no limits. How does this help anything? how does this empower our gender? I think all genders need a lot of compromise, a lot of education, giving up old ways, a lot of f*cking critical-thinking (the marxist "why am I thinking what I'm thinking if I'm thinking a thought" type of stuff) but most importantly, respect for other humans... so we avoid reducing and stereotyping... we're in this mess because that is done to women continually in every way.. so tooth by tooth won't get us anywhere, we need to move past from such denigrating ways of understanding other genders, other cultures and mostly of understanding ourselves as humans. Wanting sex, performing sex and sexual incompatibility does not equal "sexual misconduct".
Ah. Felt good. Also, I've never seen his movies or show, whatever he does.. quick disclaimer.
I'm sure many knew, but because the fashion industry is such a bubble I doubt those with immense amount of power will ever follow the 'if you see something, say something' approach. That agent who sided with Ulrikke Hoyer against Ashley Brokaw, that was a rare act of bravery. I know there was most likely a whisper here and there about Testino and Weber, but would it really have been that unlikely for nobody to ever witness any transgressions? Odd.
