The Art of Seduction - what is seductive/sexy to all of you?

[meowmix]

Hmm well i think just focus on wearing things that make you feel most comfortable, that's most true to your own personal style, or work on cultivating that... seek out pieces that make you look and FEEL fabulous, without being so concerned about how it looks on others. Different pieces bring out different things in people...a dress can be transformed by the wearer. I think if you wear things that make you feel great, sexy, etc... it will be easier for that to show on the outside. personally, my 'look/feel sexy moments' are after i get a great new haircut...or when I'm wearing a great pair of shoes and carrying a fun handbag... it all depends on what works for you to bring that about... I used to kinda try for the 'sexy 'look too that i saw others looking great in but it just made me look silly so I just focused on what works for me... often I find that when i'm not really focusing on it to much, that's when others see it in me...

 

[meowmix]

Originally posted by softgrey@Apr 16th, 2004 - 12:31 am
there are all different kinds of sexy...

i suggest exploring some other options that you feel more comfortable with...a woman is most attractive when she is at ease with herself...find a look that you're comfortable with...everything else will come with that...


have fun exploring...

I hadn't even read your post, softgrey... but i just realized we pretty much said the same thing... except you conveyed it much better and less tediously (?)

 

[purplelucrezia]

I do think the most important thing is to just be comfortable with yourself (as meowmix and softgrey said so eloquently). I wouldn't try too hard, it usually just ends up looking fake. Also, how about the whole thing of confidence being sexy? B)

 

[softgrey]

Originally posted by meowmix+Apr 15th, 2004 - 11:34 pm--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(meowmix @ Apr 15th, 2004 - 11:34 pm)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-softgrey@Apr 16th, 2004 - 12:31 am
there are all different kinds of sexy...

i suggest exploring some other options that you feel more comfortable with...a woman is most attractive when she is at ease with herself...find a look that you're comfortable with...everything else will come with that...


have fun exploring...

I hadn't even read your post, softgrey... but i just realized we pretty much said the same thing... except you conveyed it much better and less tediously (?) [/b][/quote]
i loved your post meowmix... ...great minds...

purple has a great attitude too...looks like we've got a couple of sexy girls right here...

 

[purplelucrezia]

That's us.

 

[Glamourina]

you guys are so right! thanks!

 

[dramatique]

Originally posted by Glamourina@Apr 15th, 2004 - 11:26 pm
she always looks so womanly and at least a year or two than she really is, whereas I look like her kid sister! She can do sexy, but I'm more in the "cute" vein I guess. I don't wanna be cute! Puppies are cute! I'm not a puppy! Le sigh.

I hear ya, girl! My best friend and I are like that. She's the glamourous one all sultry looks and curves and I am the stick with the cute girl next door look. In her presence guys throw me the perfuntory hi and drool over her. But once I came into my own and got a boost of self esteem, I think a fabulous smile is just as sexy as a come-hither one.

 

[paris]

you are so right... I believe it's all about having fun, and confidence is so sexy... it doesn't hurt to wear the sexiest undergarments as an added layer of sexy...

 

[Veronica]

There's a glamour model in the UK called Jordan. She's an example of how to completely overdo it.

 

[faust]

Originally posted by Veronica@Apr 16th, 2004 - 9:23 am
There's a glamour model in the UK called Jordan. She's an example of how to completely overdo it.

my eyes hurt

 

[faust]

I think it's all about what kind of attention you are tying to get. Speaking as a guy, yea sexy is definitely attractive, but not on any deep level. If all you want is for guys to ogle at you (which I don't see why anyone would want), sexy is the way. But if you want any depth in the guy's attention, I don't thing oozing sex is neccessary it. Moreover, overdoing it can be off-putting.

 

[fuj]

she looks like a drag queen

 

[twilight fairy]

im the same. my best friend...(well, when she still lived here..) always looked about 16-17 (she was actually 14) whilst i...well i just looked 14. i was never called pretty, hot, sexy..just cute. she, however, was hot, sexy, pretty..and so on. she could just pull these things off. she was curvy and attractive. i'm skinny, short (5'2) small boobs..but hey, lately i'm learning to accept me the way i am. its not always easy..but as long as im having a laugh, feel confident with how i am..i can attract people too.

but if you really wanna pull off the sexy look..try mixing things..like a mini skirt with converse..or just sport shoes...or heeled/pointy pumps with well fit jeans and a dressy top. sexy doesn't always = black, short, lace, revealing.

 

[Spike413]

Disclaimer:
I am a male, so keep in mind I'm speaking from a man's point of view, I have no concept of what it is to be a woman so, my opinions could be a little off.

To me, sexy is totally subjective, what's sexy for one woman isn't sexy for another. Like someone else on here said, there are all different kinds of sexy. There's an in your face, bold sexuality. There's a more subdued, abiguous sexuality, I mean, I could go on and on. I say, don't fight with what you are to be sexy, cause it won't be good in the end. Embrace what you have, if you're petite and have a youthful appearence, don't go for a full on femme fatale sexy. If you're not 20 years old, go with that, become sexy in a more mature and sophisticated way. Like I said, sex appeal is subjective, figure out what it is that makes you sexy and go with it, the results can't be bad if you're truly comfortable with yourself.

 

[softgrey]

Originally posted by Spike413@Apr 16th, 2004 - 1:14 pm

Like someone else on here said, there are all different kinds of sexy.

that was me...i said that

look at that, spike...we finally agree...

 

[Spike413]

Originally posted by softgrey+Apr 16th, 2004 - 1:17 pm--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(softgrey @ Apr 16th, 2004 - 1:17 pm)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-Spike413@Apr 16th, 2004 - 1:14 pm

Like someone else on here said, there are all different kinds of sexy.

that was me...i said that

look at that, spike...we finally agree... [/b][/quote]
Oh my dear lord, it's a beautiful thing!!

Who would think that something as "shallow" and "superficial" as fashion could bring two people together like that? I love it!

 

[enrichi]

If you feel overshadowed by dramatic curves and sky-high sexuality, compare Audrey Hepburn to Pamela Anderson.

I'm one of those girls with the hourglass figures, and my best friend is the ultra lean athlete. I will never have her body, but I envy it all the time. She recently called me up to cry "I just tried on an A cup, and it was too big!" I pointed out that it's never hurt her to run in the wrong bra.

 

[Nixon058]

I have trouble too,but i dress how i feel and act confident and that seems to work!

 

[eloes]

Originally posted by crystalized@Apr 16th, 2004 - 11:35 am
im the same. my best friend...(well, when she still lived here..) always looked about 16-17 (she was actually 14) whilst i...well i just looked 14. i was never called pretty, hot, sexy..just cute. she, however, was hot, sexy, pretty..and so on. she could just pull these things off. she was curvy and attractive.

I haven't read page two yet, but I really wanted to respond to this first. I hope I'm not repeating anybody.

I have to say that in this case, I feel sympathy for your friend rather than jealousy. I happen to know that looking older than you are can be a bad thing! When you look 16-17 at 14 (or whatever age), it often generates the attention of older guys before you're ready to deal with it. I'm not saying that I look like your friend, but I do look older than I am and have been flirted with by guys who are not in my age range. It's creepy. This happens to lots of girls who look older than they are, and if your friend was as pretty as you say she was, she may have had a real problem with it.

*on the age topic rather than the sexiness topic*

I hate being mistaken for older than I am in other situations, too. My mom says that it's because I'm polite and I speak like an adult (not just in speech habits but also in content), not because I look old, but I still hate it. I've also been told that I have an 'old soul' (by a number of people). Just because I want to have an intelligent conversation and I don't wear butt-crack jeans...

 

[Erin]

Originally posted by Glamourina@Apr 15th, 2004 - 10:26 pm
@ you two. I would say to heck with it, but my best friend is tall and Latina with flawless skin and a perfect body, and when we go places together (which always happens since we're attached at the hip) she always looks so womanly and at least a year or two than she really is, whereas I look like her kid sister! She can do sexy, but I'm more in the "cute" vein I guess. I don't wanna be cute! Puppies are cute! I'm not a puppy! Le sigh.

One of my good friends is Filipino, and is just drop-dead gorgeous. Whenever we go out, she makes me feel like the ugly duckling! She's got THE perfect body, beautiful dark long hair, exotic features...she just screams sexy. Me, I am all right...but I always feel like I'm trying too hard. Here I am, 5'4, small to medium build, but yet - I find it hard to be sexy. It's harder to keep the weight off since I'm in college now, so my life basically revolves around pulling off some time of come-hither look through makeup or clothing because working off my body's appeal has worn off.

But yes, I try to accomplish that sexy look, too. It's so fun to appear almost unapproachable..or even a little mysterious..but I think it's so damn appealing.