2009 : Your Resolutions!

[heaveninhereyes]

My main resolution is to keep on dressing in my own messy way.
There's nothing I love more than individuality and a sense of style that reflects personality and always try to wear clothes that represent me and my lifestyle rather than following high fashion. Sometimes though I get caught up in current trends and loose my own look, and I hate that, so this year I'm going to focus on being free spirited and rather thrown together in the way I dress and not pay any attention at all to what's 'in'.

 

[The_Ida]

Other than working with what I have...I really should get a haircut. That's a cheap way to make a change - and then I really am working with what I have the most of

 

[fashionmuse]

Good for you fashionmuse for not following the (badly dressed) crowd!

thanks .
and thanks to everyone who replied and gave me support

 

[gius]

we're already almost into February
Have any of you gone through with your resolutions?

I just got a whole "library" of spices, manymany bags.. growing bigger slowly.. ^^
started to play with them since this morning
a cinnamon/nutmeg latte
tonight turmeric chicken

 

[GasolineRainbow]

My style resolutions are simple but ambitious (the rest are ambitious, period
- Wear heels unless very tired/ill, no other excuses allowed.
- Learn to walk gracefully in said heels.
- Stop biting nails once and for all.
- Splurge on silk nails following inevitable nail-biting relapse.

I've got the heels thing down pat.B) But my feet and I are not on speaking terms, they won't even return my calls.

As for the nails, sigh. Failed, I have.

And I'm still working on bringing my more existential resolutions to fruition.

 

[Virginielle]

• Listen better.
• Practice moderation.
• Be more responsible with my finances.
• Learn to speak a foreign language fluently.
• Spend more time writing.
• Exercise more/eat healthier (less refined sugar).
• Become a better traveler.
• Stand up straighter.
• Think ahead.
• Live well.

Actually, I've been quite good. I've been very good about everything but standing up straighter and "becoming a better traveler" (but, really---it's been less than a month), and the writing. The refined sugar thing hasn't been nearly as difficult as I imagined it would be, and I am enjoying my weekly French class very much!

 

[Virginielle]

And I'm still working on bringing my more existential resolutions to fruition.

I laughed when I read this, Gasoline, because it sounds like something I'd say. What exactly do you mean by it?

 

[dumbfairy]

So far,no not really,but I celebrate Chinese New Year and the new year is but a few days old! I wanna take my studies far more seriously this year and not be quite so half hearted in my efforts and go out and party it up instead. I have worn heels more. And have stopped biting my nails,I dont even think about them now. Which wasn't even a resolution so thats quite a positive start to the year

 

[GasolineRainbow]

I laughed when I read this, Gasoline, because it sounds like something I'd say. What exactly do you mean by it?

Laugh? What is this thing, laugh? I am an existentialist.

I meant that my nye resolutions, as well as goals, dreams, and hopes for the next year are of a wider and more abstract scope than anything style-related. It must be the same for most of us. Since I have "big picture", "dreamer" tendencies, it's healthy for me to also set material resolutions.

In my interior life, I often feel so lost, overwhelmed, and paralyzed, so it's satisfying to make concrete changes in my life, like sporting heels and lovely hands..oh wait, dammit!!

 

[Virginielle]

Makes sense, makes sense. I relate very much, actually.

I just began A Farewell to Sartre by Simone de Beauvoir and I'm very into it.

 

[gius]

gasolinerainbow - lovely hands ?

 

[GasolineRainbow]

^He he, I'm a horrid nail-biter. Even if I polish my nails, they still look raggedy and ugly, which is a shame, because I could have the prettiest hands. I've got delicate wrists and fingers, non-veiny skin, and I use them a lot when I speak. My grandma emphasized that hands are an important aspect of beauty, and I always notice when a man or a woman has lovely hands, both in how they look and how they gesture.

 

[dumbfairy]

^Have you tried those polishes you apply that taste horrible? Cos I never found they worked and grew to like the taste But right now I'm not biting them,I just stopped all of a sudden :-/ They look pretty but they are horrid to type and text with!

 

[fashionista-ta]

Makes sense, makes sense. I relate very much, actually.

I just began A Farewell to Sartre by Simone de Beauvoir and I'm very into it.

Say goodbye to Sartre, that would be a good resolution

 

[cherryblossoms]

can anyone tell me if I can add some more items to my NY resolutions that I wrote down right after New Year? would my list still be eligible to "new year resolutions"?

 

[GasolineRainbow]

^Sure, I don't see why not. Our lives are a work in progress.

^Have you tried those polishes you apply that taste horrible? Cos I never found they worked and grew to like the taste But right now I'm not biting them,I just stopped all of a sudden :-/ They look pretty but they are horrid to type and text with!

I have tried that in the past, and while it worked brilliantly, I gave it up for complicated reasons. I'm rather prone to inducing anhedonia (basically, denying yourself pleasure), so I try to avoid all the little things that might make me fall into that trap.

I think one of the reasons our resolutions often fail is because they take on a form of self-punishment or self-deprivation. And foul-tasting polish is like that. It's not a change that is the result of hard work, effort, or meaningful sacrifice.

 

[fashionista-ta]

can anyone tell me if I can add some more items to my NY resolutions that I wrote down right after New Year? would my list still be eligible to "new year resolutions"?

The year is still new, so you heard it here first ... YES

^ I agree, Gasoline Rainbow ... it seems like women in particular are vulnerable to punishing themselves. I guess what you're basically saying is that it's a negative technique, and you want a positive approach.

I have found what really works for me is to decide at a very deep level that I truly want to make something happen. Sure, there are lots of things we'd all love if there were no effort associated with them But if there is real effort involved, once I make this kind of decision, I stick to my guns.

I've observed something & I don't quite know how to explain it ... but it's like that whole idea of if someone's on a diet and they eat something "wrong," they start beating themselves up and continue to eat more things that are "wrong." I don't get that

Of course it's irrational and counterproductive. But in my mind, the goal is not to be perfect, the goal is to achieve something--healthier eating, reduction, whatever, neither of which requires perfection. It's all a balancing act. I believe that perfection does exist, but in moments. But the whole nature of this planet is imperfection ... if you're not ready for it, every day is a rude awakening

And then there's this part of it, like there's some external entity making rules or demanding perfection The critical voice of Mom, I don't know. There's something there that is puzzling to me ...

Anyway, in my world, I am the judge and jury If a question arises that needs a ruling, I am up to the task. If I fail to do something (and I am making rather minimal progress on one of my resolutions right now ...), it's because I'm not fully committed, and I know it. Sometimes, I think, it's best not to force it, but to wait for that moment of true resolution to arrive, and then pounce upon it

 

[gius]

i read an article on forming habits
on purpose

it's best to form only one habit at a time
as it doesn't quite interfere as much with your daily life

you do the 'habit' everyday
at the same hour
Remember to pay attention to an activity you do before the habit.
it's a way of reinforcing it
And in a month, it forms...

 

[fashionista-ta]

^ Even 21 days, I think ...

That's a good idea, to anchor it with something else ...

 

[cherryblossoms]

oh great
cause I feel the need to add some more items!