So the question is what differentiates a fashion shoe from a fetish shoe. Certain a pair of ballets are fetish shoes. The other side of the coin is that many women refer to 1 1/2" heels as high!?
For me, anything up to and including 6" is fashionable. My limit at work is 6". On a night out, 7" is normal. Around the house, ballets are not uncommon (needless to say, with my husband in a frenzy).
It is dependent on your norm. I see that heels are rising in fashion, so hopefully more girls aout there are going to get the idea. Hopefully they will also start wearing sexy hosiery also. to accentuate the shoes.