Boston Globe
Judith Balaban Quine is Beverly Hills from her lean silhouette to her lean Chanel handbag.
What Grace Kelly, the late princess of Monaco, liked about her longtime pal Judy is that beyond the fashionable signatures is an astute woman who leveled with her. That's what forged their friendship.
Quine has written a book, "The Bridesmaids," a portrait of Her Serene Highness of Monaco and the women who were in her wedding party 33 years ago.
In this interview over breakfast at the Ritz-Carlton hotel, Quine reveals the emotional difficulties Grace had with the two most important men in her life: her late father, Jack Kelly, who didn't appreciate her acting ambitions, and her husband, Prince Rainier, who loved her dearly but, as Judy says, "took out some of his frustrations on Grace."
Born in Chicago, Quine, 56, is the daughter of Barney Balaban, who was president of Paramount Pictures for 28 years. The day she married Jay Kanter, the Hollywood agent, was the day she met Grace Kelly, who came to her wedding. Kanter was Kelly's agent.
Quine has been married to businessman Don Quine for 22 years. Her first two marriages, to Kanter and to Tony Franciosa, ended in divorce.
"Grace needed to be excellent.
"She was the unnoticed middle child. The field she chose did not get instant respect from her father. He saw acting as a slim cut above streetwalker. And she was ambitious at a time when ambitious women were thought to castrate men.
"She left a prominent Philadelphia family to become a struggling actress in New York. It was an independent move. She had a certain amount of maverick in her. Also, she was self-sufficient. That was a good side of being a middle child. She knew she had to depend on herself.
"Grace met the shah of Iran before he married Farah Diba. She never talked of him at great length. The shah came to New York 1951 and his friends arranged dinner parties. Someone invited her to a party for the shah and she was seated as his dinner partner.
"The shah was very taken with her. They went to the theater together and they went dancing a few times. When he left New York, he sent her a Van Cleef gold and diamond pin of a bird in a cage.
"Before she married Rainier, she gave me that pin. Rainier didn't want her to have jewelry in Monaco that didn't come from him. So Grace unloaded her loot. Anyway, she didn't have an extraordinary collection of jewelry.
"Rainier knew she had loves before him. Grace had well-publicized romances with Oleg Cassini and with Jean Pierre Aumont. Rainier didn't resent the previous romances. But he said it was 'inappropriate' for her to wear jewelry that didn't come from him.
"Rainier is witty, curious and bright. He's very sexy. Maybe it's his voice. His accent is quite British. Americans underestimate the fact that he's a brilliant businessman. He doesn't make grandstand plays.
"Grace was madly in love with him. I'm talking head over heels in love. It's a myth that their marriage was arranged. They spent four days together in her home in Philadelphia at Christmas with her family. They played charades together and went for walks in the woods.
"That was like being on a desert island. It removed them from public life. That's when they decided to get married. Besides, they had a great physical attraction to each other.
"She wanted to build a happy married life. She couldn't do it hopping around the world, starring in films. Grace and Rainier had agreed that she could do an 'occasional' film. Alfred Hitchcock offered her the role in 'Marnie.'
"Rainier thought it was a wonderful idea. He encouraged Grace to do it. Then the people of Monaco panicked. The headlines blared: 'Now that we've grown to love Grace, she's leaving us!' The press made it clear it was not in Monaco's best interest to see their princess kissing another man on the screen.
"Grace finally bowed to the pressure. She made her own announcement that she would not be acting in 'Marnie' -- indeed, she would not be acting at all. Privately, she harbored a sense of loss. She would say that one day the pressure would ease. It never did.
"The tragedy of her death is that it happened in a period Grace thought of as her time. She called them 'Gracie's years.' Her children were grown.
"She was scheduling herself to go on poetry readings across America, not just the big cities but the smaller ones, too. Grace wanted to hit the road. She wanted to stay in hotels, come in late at night, kick off her shoes, order pizza and talk to the people involved in producing her readings.
"Grace wanted the camaraderie.
"Grace died too soon. I don't care what stories have been made up in the press. I've seen the medical reports. I know how she died.
"Grace had a stroke while driving around a hairpin turn. She blacked out. She had a second stroke on impact. Stephanie wasn't driving the car.
"It was a horrible thing for Stephanie. She was incredibly attached to her mother. They were what Grace called 'best pals.' Stephanie tried, but couldn't save her mother. She tried to reach the brake pedal, but it was too late. The car was already going over the embankment. Stephanie was there with her mother at the moment of impact.
"After Grace's death, Stephanie tried to make a new, compelling life. She entered into a period of rebelling. She was trying to block out the pain. She's still not over her sense of loss.
"Caroline married her first husband, Philippe Junot, believing he was going to retire from nightclubbing. She wanted children. He said that's what he wanted. Caroline believed him. It didn't work out that way. Now she's happily married to Stefano Casiraghi. They have children. And Caroline has taken over cultural programs in Monaco.
"Rainier was always a loving father. No matter what the children did, no matter what their mode of behavior, his rule was that they never be shut out.
"His door was always open to them. Rainier's reward for having done that is that he has a close relationship now with all of them. Albert is very entrenched now in the administration of Monaco.
"Rainier was moody. He could be quick-tempered. He took some of that out on Grace. Rainier knew that Grace would still love him. He once said that a good marriage was not a romantic liaison, but that a good marriage was one long conversation.
"One area that presented problems to Grace and Rainier was that their free time was sucked up like a vacuum. There were times when they were too busy for each other.
"So they bought a country house and tried to live like a normal family. The prince barbecued hamburgers and Grace made potato salad. It was like the old folks at home.
"Grace was often described as aloof, an ice queen. She was nearsighted. She couldn't see. So she pulled in her nervous tension, struck a pristine pose and was quiet. She hated the goddess image.
"She thought she was 'nice-looking.' Once she called herself 'attractive.' She never sought out people's company on the basis of their beauty. She, in turn, didn't want to be sought out for her beauty. She disliked it when people went ga-ga over her.
"The admiration of the one man she wanted was her father. But Jack Kelly didn't cozy up to Grace. Jack Kelly understood business, understood politics, understood sports. He knew what these things were about. He never 'got it' about Grace.
"Grace never got a good hail-fellow slap on the back from her father. He wanted her to be recreated in his image.
"But Grace was Grace.