ILoveHighHeels
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Shiela Ann
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Hey all,
Sorry I havent posted in a while. As the orignial poster of this thread I am glad to see so many responses and also replys from like-minded guys.
Anyway just to answer a few questions etc....
yes, that is a picture of me wearing my boots in the original picture (http://mysite.wanadoo-members.co.uk/myheels/fullpic.jpg) this was used as an example of how I wear them.
Also, I am not gay or am I a crossdresser, I simply like to wear shoes with a heel as I find them really comfortable and I like the look. Ok, they are (so-called) womens shoes but given the amount of trouble I have getting shoes due to my small size (5 UK) and small build and height the look is ok, it is also cheaper. I also do not wear stilletos or any fetish type of footwear, skirts etc and I do consider this to be one thing that gives people the creeps about guys earing heels. Posters like kneehighs have got the look and idea right in my opinion. I have worn shoes like what kneehighs posted (stilletto/pointy/boot) on one occasion and this was a very formal occasion with my girlfriend. However my main style is block type heels like these (http://www.next.co.uk/items/X37/shotview/270/938-611-X37s.jpg) with bootcut or flared type trousers. I think that it is important for the look to work the whole outfit has to be well co-ordinated and balanced. Since I first posted I have started wearing heels as a regular thing now (i.e. in public etc) and I have gotten numerous good comments from those that actually notice. My girlfriend is very supportive and likes the look and we do go out shoe sopping together and her friends think it is cool. Which led to one of her friends boyfriends starting to wear them.
So I hope this answers any questions.
I would be interested in any more feedback about the idea of men wearing heels like I have shown in a well co-ordinated non-fetish type way. Also, I see several fashion houses have shown heels for men so I hope one day the idea will become accepted just like guys with earrings have.
Sorry for the long post.
Cheers... looking forward to any feedback you may have.
Sorry I havent posted in a while. As the orignial poster of this thread I am glad to see so many responses and also replys from like-minded guys.
Anyway just to answer a few questions etc....
yes, that is a picture of me wearing my boots in the original picture (http://mysite.wanadoo-members.co.uk/myheels/fullpic.jpg) this was used as an example of how I wear them.
Also, I am not gay or am I a crossdresser, I simply like to wear shoes with a heel as I find them really comfortable and I like the look. Ok, they are (so-called) womens shoes but given the amount of trouble I have getting shoes due to my small size (5 UK) and small build and height the look is ok, it is also cheaper. I also do not wear stilletos or any fetish type of footwear, skirts etc and I do consider this to be one thing that gives people the creeps about guys earing heels. Posters like kneehighs have got the look and idea right in my opinion. I have worn shoes like what kneehighs posted (stilletto/pointy/boot) on one occasion and this was a very formal occasion with my girlfriend. However my main style is block type heels like these (http://www.next.co.uk/items/X37/shotview/270/938-611-X37s.jpg) with bootcut or flared type trousers. I think that it is important for the look to work the whole outfit has to be well co-ordinated and balanced. Since I first posted I have started wearing heels as a regular thing now (i.e. in public etc) and I have gotten numerous good comments from those that actually notice. My girlfriend is very supportive and likes the look and we do go out shoe sopping together and her friends think it is cool. Which led to one of her friends boyfriends starting to wear them.
So I hope this answers any questions.
I would be interested in any more feedback about the idea of men wearing heels like I have shown in a well co-ordinated non-fetish type way. Also, I see several fashion houses have shown heels for men so I hope one day the idea will become accepted just like guys with earrings have.
Sorry for the long post.
Cheers... looking forward to any feedback you may have.
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Bayoububba
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I've been interested in wearing high heels since I was 5 and have accumulated over 200 pair. I've started wearing them out and have gotten fairly positive responses. I also have a website on the topic and encourage people to relate their experiences with men in heels. It appears to be a very common phenomenon at least behind closed doors. http://PassionsforFootwear.com
It's so nice to see how many people are actually conversing about this subject in an intelligent manner instead of resorting to emotionally/mentally/socially/fashionably immature comments in attempts to cover their shock for leading such sheltered lives they've never seen this rather common phenomena before. I've been wearing heels for years, as have a lot of men. Although I'm sure some men who wear heels are CD/TV/TS/TG/G/B, I'm not, and neither are any of the perhaps 25 different men I've personally known over the last couple of decades who wear heels regularly in mainstream society.
Kneehighs - great job explaining some of the underlying issues!
By the way, folks, here's a quick primary on the differences between these terms (most people who've posted disparagingly here are apparently confusing them
CD - Crossdress - the wearing of clothings designed for the opposite sex. Have any of the ladies ever put on your boyfriend's boxers (open fly for what you don't have) or your husband's shirt button shirt (buttons on the right/V-cut for male anatomy)? Then you've crossdressed. Most people who've worn clothes intended for the opposite sex fall into this category.
TV - Transvestism - CD, but especially for the purposes of emotional or sexual gratification (Merriam Webster clearly distinguishes between CD and TV, as do most authoritative psychological experts. Most men/women who CD to appear as members of the opposite sex but without TS issues fall into this category.
TS - Transexualism - The desire to be of the opposite sex. This may or may not include TV issues, meaning that some TS never try appear as the opposite gender.
TG - Transgender - an all-encompassing term for CD/TV/TS/GLB issues.
G - Gay
L - Lesbian
B - Bisexual
Now that we've got that out of the way...
Couple of facts for you, from the desks of psychologists and counselors around the world:
1. The vast majority of men who wear heels are straight (like 10 to 1).
2. The percentage of males who're gay and wear heels is less than half of those who're straight.
3. Less than 1 in 50 men who wear heels on a regular basis actually wears them outside the home. This has largely been attributed to responses from the fashion illiterates who say "EEWWW!" If you're one of them, please let me know and I'll be happy to provide similar comments as to your own fashion choices so that you may feel as comfortable as you make others feel.
There's been a lot of discussion among professional circles as to whether men wearing heels even counts as CD, for several reasons, not the least of which is the fact that men invented heels, wearing them for some 20 years before the first heeled shoes for women were made. This happened in the 1500's, folks, so you can see this is nothing new. Furthermore, heel wear by men continued throughout the centuries (yes, several hundred years) until it faded around the time of the French Revolution.
So, truth be told, heels for men is a "vintage" fashion.
Back to whether or not it's CD, most men who wear heels do not consider themselves crossdressers, as they're not dressing as members of the opposite sex. They're simply wearing shoes with an elevated heel, something men have done for nearly 500 years.
As one who's worn heels for years, I'm glad to see that it's been making a steady comeback over the last half a decade. I'm sure that as society slowly realizes that heels aren't only for women, and that the vast majority of men who wear heels are straight, happy, healthy, heterosexuals, we'll move beyond comments like "Ewww!" and focus more closely on what makes a heel feminine and what makes it masculine.
Just to hammer home the point that there's nothing inherently "feminine" about fashion, check your history books, particularly the ones with portraits from the 10th Century through the mid-1800s. It's there you'll find quite a lot of guys wearing lace (and no, I'm not an advocate of that). You'll also find that the main reason behind men's "traditional" suit and tie approach had to do with the uniform requirements for the American Civil War. Prior to then men's clothes in general were particularly more flamboyant than women's clothes.
In closing - kudos to those who've thumbed their noses at self-appointed fashion mafia and simple worn what you wanted to wear for your own reasons. This goes for everyone, not just men in heels.
Kneehighs - great job explaining some of the underlying issues!
By the way, folks, here's a quick primary on the differences between these terms (most people who've posted disparagingly here are apparently confusing them
CD - Crossdress - the wearing of clothings designed for the opposite sex. Have any of the ladies ever put on your boyfriend's boxers (open fly for what you don't have) or your husband's shirt button shirt (buttons on the right/V-cut for male anatomy)? Then you've crossdressed. Most people who've worn clothes intended for the opposite sex fall into this category.
TV - Transvestism - CD, but especially for the purposes of emotional or sexual gratification (Merriam Webster clearly distinguishes between CD and TV, as do most authoritative psychological experts. Most men/women who CD to appear as members of the opposite sex but without TS issues fall into this category.
TS - Transexualism - The desire to be of the opposite sex. This may or may not include TV issues, meaning that some TS never try appear as the opposite gender.
TG - Transgender - an all-encompassing term for CD/TV/TS/GLB issues.
G - Gay
L - Lesbian
B - Bisexual
Now that we've got that out of the way...
Couple of facts for you, from the desks of psychologists and counselors around the world:
1. The vast majority of men who wear heels are straight (like 10 to 1).
2. The percentage of males who're gay and wear heels is less than half of those who're straight.
3. Less than 1 in 50 men who wear heels on a regular basis actually wears them outside the home. This has largely been attributed to responses from the fashion illiterates who say "EEWWW!" If you're one of them, please let me know and I'll be happy to provide similar comments as to your own fashion choices so that you may feel as comfortable as you make others feel.
There's been a lot of discussion among professional circles as to whether men wearing heels even counts as CD, for several reasons, not the least of which is the fact that men invented heels, wearing them for some 20 years before the first heeled shoes for women were made. This happened in the 1500's, folks, so you can see this is nothing new. Furthermore, heel wear by men continued throughout the centuries (yes, several hundred years) until it faded around the time of the French Revolution.
So, truth be told, heels for men is a "vintage" fashion.
Back to whether or not it's CD, most men who wear heels do not consider themselves crossdressers, as they're not dressing as members of the opposite sex. They're simply wearing shoes with an elevated heel, something men have done for nearly 500 years.
As one who's worn heels for years, I'm glad to see that it's been making a steady comeback over the last half a decade. I'm sure that as society slowly realizes that heels aren't only for women, and that the vast majority of men who wear heels are straight, happy, healthy, heterosexuals, we'll move beyond comments like "Ewww!" and focus more closely on what makes a heel feminine and what makes it masculine.
Just to hammer home the point that there's nothing inherently "feminine" about fashion, check your history books, particularly the ones with portraits from the 10th Century through the mid-1800s. It's there you'll find quite a lot of guys wearing lace (and no, I'm not an advocate of that). You'll also find that the main reason behind men's "traditional" suit and tie approach had to do with the uniform requirements for the American Civil War. Prior to then men's clothes in general were particularly more flamboyant than women's clothes.
In closing - kudos to those who've thumbed their noses at self-appointed fashion mafia and simple worn what you wanted to wear for your own reasons. This goes for everyone, not just men in heels.
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rockpup said:
If I may... If the jeans have lower hems on black boots, ok. Lighter-colored boots it's ok to have a higher hem. If you want to show the heel (being a guy), wear black jeans or slacks.
Top it off with a dark long-sleeve button-down shirt.
Do something with the hair, something involving... Well, I dunno - I'm no stylist! I'd do the rest, first, then walk into the stylist's office and say, "complete me."
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xaphod said:
Ya, Xa - what you said!
ajott said:Hello Xa,
great casual office outfit
Perhaps I should add some photo here too.. thats what I wore last weekend:
Nothing too sensational, but at least with some heels...
Nice Speakers! (speaking as a former speaker designer builder...)
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Emery said:Me too, and that has to do with the wide-foot bit, in my case. Actually, the whole reason forensics can't make a firm determination is just that the extremes of men's feet overlap the extremes of women's - it's quite true that there really is a distinct difference in the average sizes and shapes. Dammit!
Despite my build otherwise, I've been told by many a shoe saleperson that I have "feminine feet." Other than being able to fit into normal widths for women's shoes comfortably, I haven't a clue as to what they're talking about.
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Thats what i'm talking about! That looks cool. Kind of Mod 70's vibe. It looks like the heels are an integral part of the outfit, and the look. It still looks masculine, and not fetishy or incongrus (sp?)
Thats what i'm talking about! That looks cool. Kind of Mod 70's vibe. It looks like the heels are an integral part of the outfit, and the look. It still looks masculine, and not fetishy or incongrus (sp?)
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still not convinced....and i do have an eccentric sense of fashion at times but heels are still...
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I have to say that heels for men have yet to impress me. Even the YSL Johnny boot are a bit too much for me. I saw a man purchasing them in the 57th street store the other day and I really wanted to talk him out of them...but I have more class then that, and it is his purchase, not mine
. I think that Dior Homme has really done well with the 6.5 heels. They are not too short, and not too high. They acheive the purpose of lengthening the line of the leg without overdoing it.
. I think that Dior Homme has really done well with the 6.5 heels. They are not too short, and not too high. They acheive the purpose of lengthening the line of the leg without overdoing it.Foxie-Pooh
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I'd like to see a man in Louboutin pigalles...come on...someone buy it and and post it here...I'm sure it'll look great
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I personally LOVE men in heels, I've seen men designers on tv wearing them, and they looked divine! Just GO FOR IT! I don't mind whether it's kitten heels or chunky square heels.
why_fashion said:
What a nice thing to say! Thank you.
Truly, around town the worst comment I've ever received came from some middle-aged Bible thumper who was probably having a bad day, and all she said was, "wouldn't you rather wear something more appropriate?" I responded, "nothing's more appropriate than a nice pair of shoes!"
