When Public Feedback Goes Wrong

[As You Like It]

Originally posted by pineapple@Mar 20th, 2004 - 7:18 pm
I got a lot of questions like, "Did you wear pants underneath because your skirt was too short?" The idea that I wore the pants underneath for a reason puzzled them.

I use slim-cut trousers under some of my dresses for that very reason! Otherwise the dress would be too skimpy to wear to work.

Before I had to start attempting to be professional, I had a Ginger Spice approach to skirt lengths. Now, I could get written up for fingertip length skirts, so the layered, funky look is a good find and a wardrobe extender. I use many of my old dresses as tunics. I also wear them over certain types of skirts (anything longer and cut slim through the hips will do, if the colors tone well.

 

[fuj]

Originally posted by TheSoCalledPrep+Mar 20th, 2004 - 6:58 pm--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(TheSoCalledPrep @ Mar 20th, 2004 - 6:58 pm)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-fuj@Mar 20th, 2004 - 3:27 pm
i love the stare.

when i get it, i know i'm doing something right ;-)

I know, as much as I complain about it, I would never want people to stop staring and commenting. Stupid, I know.. But I am a person that thrives on attention, spotlight, showing off.. It exhilarates me. [/b][/quote]
haha, thats exactly the reason i love it

 

[rengirl2000]

I think you should ignore it.

You have my sympathies. About ten years ago, I lived in Alabama where the idea of a new trend = the latest at Kmart. I got 'the stare' all the time. After a while, it becomes a badge of honor.

 

[xclusive]

Originally posted by pineapple@Mar 20th, 2004 - 7:18 pm
I live in a really really small town, and fashion takes a long time to get to the people around here.

For example, I wore this really cute olive green silk guess chinese-inspired dress with pants underneath and pink pointy-toed pumps.

Needles to say I got MANY stares from the people in my high school. People around here are still wearing overalls and "vintage" shirts that sport annoying words like, "Cutie" or "Brat." "High Fashion" at my high school consists of girls bedecked in Abercrombie apparel.

To them I bet I looked like some kind of foreigner. I got a lot of questions like, "Did you wear pants underneath because your skirt was too short?" The idea that I wore the pants underneath for a reason puzzled them.

omg!! SAME exactly same!! this web.site is amazing..it makes me happy to see that so many people go through the same thing as me..

 

[lucky star]

I completely agree with what everybody has been saying. i am also a victim of this 'stare', and the
discomfort it caused, espicially in HS. I agree with the attitude that not caring what anybody else thinks is by far the best way to go, but it can be hard when you are the minority. There have been some incredibly smart things said, which helped me see sides of the situation also. I believe that it is true that the reason people generally make fun and stare is there own insecurities, which is a sad fact of life. I believe that those who take chances are the people that will truly become something, these are the people that will shake up the world. Creativity and originality are a virtue . Some peole would say that dressing unique or current, or different from the masses is asking for it, by putting yourself 'out there'. I believe that it is not the place for those closeminded people to pass judgement on those who are open to be different. Throughout history the people who dared to be different or unique, those who carved there own way, those are the people who became fashion icons, those are the people who changed our world. so I believe that we should all be ourselves and not care what other people think, because who knows where we might be one day.

 

[plasticine20]

It's lame when people feel the need to freely insult others solely for their personal style.

Though, do remember that while it may not be realized, many of you who complain about it do, in fact, partake in it yourselves! For example, some may insult the girls who walk around in head to toe abercrombie because they have no personal style; that they wear what they think they're supposed to wear. It's what all the kids in school wear. They don't know what "true" fashion is. This can be applied to people on this messaged board; except that people turn to fashion magazines to tell them what to wear. People soak up the latest trends from the runways and make not so nice comments to those who are "stuck" in trends from last season. In many posts, I see loads of comments regarding "bad" outfits. Like the posts that say,"omg i saw this one girl on the street wearing...".

I'm not trying to be rude or anything; just making an observation. I sometimes find myself doing the same as well, so I'm still guilty!

 

[TheSoCalledPrep]

I don't insult the girls because they have no induviduality: I insult them because they act like mine is a crime.

 

[faust]

Originally posted by plasticine20@Mar 21st, 2004 - 2:07 pm
It's lame when people feel the need to freely insult others solely for their personal style.

Though, do remember that while it may not be realized, many of you who complain about it do, in fact, partake in it yourselves! For example, some may insult the girls who walk around in head to toe abercrombie because they have no personal style; that they wear what they think they're supposed to wear. It's what all the kids in school wear. They don't know what "true" fashion is. This can be applied to people on this messaged board; except that people turn to fashion magazines to tell them what to wear. People soak up the latest trends from the runways and make not so nice comments to those who are "stuck" in trends from last season. In many posts, I see loads of comments regarding "bad" outfits. Like the posts that say,"omg i saw this one girl on the street wearing...".

I'm not trying to be rude or anything; just making an observation. I sometimes find myself doing the same as well, so I'm still guilty!

excellent observation. i agree wholeheartedly

 

[eastsidecouturechic]

pineapple, i'm with you!!

i also live in a slightly small town where whatever is on display at hollister and abercrombie is in. while i do wear those, i also get " the stare" for my crazier, higher fashion clothing.

for example, one day i wore light blue jeans, a dress from.....4th grade with pictures of realy flowers in super bright colors over it, with hot pink pointy toed stilettos.

this is me

this is everyone else:

i feel for ya!

 

[Salvatore]

I find that the main ones that talk about you are the ones that will try to copy you. People sometimes joke about my "extremely preppy" style (I'm talking 1980s prep) but about a week or so later, they are influenced and start wearing things the way I would.

 

[lucky star]

Plasticine20, I totally agree with your point about following trends, that following a trend from Vogue, and following a trend from the local mall is not that different.That rings very true, and it seems that to insult someone for wearing something from the mall, is just as bad as insulting someone for wearing something more unique, or vintage or designer, it all comes from some sort of personal insecurity. It seems to me that to strive for personal expression and creativity is the best, but I feel sad for anyone who just dressed ' how they were supposed to'. I wholeheartedly believe that 'true' fashion is wearing what you like because YOU like it, and whether its vintage, used, or couture.... I think what it comes down to is that true personal expression, whatever it is, cannot be dicounted as unfashionable.

 

[FashionVixen]

Originally posted by pineapple@Mar 20th, 2004 - 7:18 pm
I live in a really really small town, and fashion takes a long time to get to the people around here.

For example, I wore this really cute olive green silk guess chinese-inspired dress with pants underneath and pink pointy-toed pumps.

Needles to say I got MANY stares from the people in my high school. People around here are still wearing overalls and "vintage" shirts that sport annoying words like, "Cutie" or "Brat." "High Fashion" at my high school consists of girls bedecked in Abercrombie apparel.

To them I bet I looked like some kind of foreigner. I got a lot of questions like, "Did you wear pants underneath because your skirt was too short?" The idea that I wore the pants underneath for a reason puzzled them.

Lol! Same here. Everytime I even wore a skirt to school a year ago I'd get the "Why are you wearing THAT?!" and "Did you have to dress up for choir?" NO! But of course, now EVERYONE wears skirts to school. Hmph. Anyways, excellent topic! I looooove the stare. Actually, I think I'll go plan something amazing and of-the-moment for tomarrow. Makes life interesting.

 

[plasticine20]

Originally posted by faust+Mar 22nd, 2004 - 3:04 pm--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(faust @ Mar 22nd, 2004 - 3:04 pm)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-plasticine20@Mar 21st, 2004 - 2:07 pm
It's lame when people feel the need to freely insult others solely for their personal style.

Though, do remember that while it may not be realized, many of you who complain about it do, in fact, partake in it yourselves! For example, some may insult the girls who walk around in head to toe abercrombie because they have no personal style; that they wear what they think they're supposed to wear. It's what all the kids in school wear. They don't know what "true" fashion is. This can be applied to people on this messaged board; except that people turn to fashion magazines to tell them what to wear. People soak up the latest trends from the runways and make not so nice comments to those who are "stuck" in trends from last season. In many posts, I see loads of comments regarding "bad" outfits. Like the posts that say,"omg i saw this one girl on the street wearing...".

I'm not trying to be rude or anything; just making an observation. I sometimes find myself doing the same as well, so I'm still guilty!

excellent observation. i agree wholeheartedly [/b][/quote]
Might I just add that I do love your avatar. I don't really expect to see someone who likes them around here

 

[faust]

Originally posted by plasticine20+Mar 24th, 2004 - 8:49 pm--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(plasticine20 @ Mar 24th, 2004 - 8:49 pm)</div><div class='quotemain'>

Originally posted by faust@Mar 22nd, 2004 - 3:04 pm
<!--QuoteBegin-plasticine20

@Mar 21st, 2004 - 2:07 pm
It's lame when people feel the need to freely insult others solely for their personal style.

Though, do remember that while it may not be realized, many of you who complain about it do, in fact, partake in it yourselves!  For example, some may insult the girls who walk around in head to toe abercrombie because they have no personal style; that they wear what they think they're supposed to wear.  It's what all the kids in school wear.  They don't know what "true" fashion is.  This can be applied to people on this messaged board; except that people turn to fashion magazines to tell them what to wear.   People soak up the latest trends from the runways and make not so nice comments to those who are "stuck" in trends from last season.  In many posts, I see loads of comments regarding "bad" outfits.  Like the posts that say,"omg i saw this one girl on the street wearing...".

I'm not trying to be rude or anything; just making an observation.  I sometimes find myself doing the same as well, so I'm still guilty! 

excellent observation. i agree wholeheartedly

Might I just add that I do love your avatar. I don't really expect to see someone who likes them around here [/b][/quote]
Thank you! Oh, beleive me, my interests are on a very wide range. The underlying factor of them can be summarized by a word "Quality" or "Beauty", but it's not enough. I have yet to find a person that understands me completely (well, my wife does ). Therefore, I revovle in several circles, some share my passion for fashion, some for music, some for my Audi, some for literature, some for philosohpy, some for photography, etc, etc...

If you get a chance, pick up a book called "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintanence" by Robert Pirsig - he took everything I hold in my heart and mind, spilled it out, summarized it, and elegantly put it in a beautiful, important book.

 

[Max]

I can relate to a lot of you people! In my SoCal college going to class in your jammies is fine, but if you wear a fitted shirt with a print, or hell even a nice dress shirt (aka "So do you have a presentation today?") people give you stares.
I guess if I went to an east-coast school this would be less of a problem, but the SoCal ladies and weather more than make up for the lack of fashion B)
The bottom line is you should dress so that you feel comfortable. If you don't like the stares and comments then perhaps you should wear something more conservative, if you do or don't care then go all out. In the end, anyone who's more than a passing acquaintance will look past what you're wearing.

 

[Street_a_Licious]

Dressing conservatively ain't bad... but you gotta put a lil' (or bigger) something into that outfit...

The real magic of fashion is to take some pieces which wouldn't really fit and work it that way that it really fits, ya kno? I always get stares from guys in HS, cuz they thing that they are used to are: T-Shirt, (maybe a polo shirt, but tucked into the jeans which always seem to tight uch: ) Sweatshirt, Jeans and Sportshoes. hehe, I never fit into that, I always have to wear something I kno that they wouldn't. Flip Flops, Suit Jacket, orange stuff and the like always seem to stir them... oh well, I don't care

 

[TheSoCalledPrep]

I get the same, Street... I love that it makes me stand out as a potential girlfriend.

 

[Nemova]

I'm quite comfortable sticking to my own style. Nevermind the latest look, whether it comes from Vogue or the closest mall. I'm not really into anticipating the next trend, since I believe clothes are supposed to make a statement about who I am. And having curly long hair when everybody cuts it short or gets japanese straightening already makes me the main offender.

 

[i_<3_chanel]

i feel lucky that i'm surrounded by people who know what style is & that 'fashion' isn't about following the crowd. my friends are open minded when it comes to fashion . . . which makes me happy
but i know some people who think style is buying into latest trends & it makes me laugh. i like to dress in whatever makes me happy
i remember one time 2 years ago i wore a pleated mini w/slouch boots to school & i got soo many stares . . it was hilarious. & last year suddenly everyone was wearing pleated minis . . & slouchy boots just because it was in all the mags as a 'trend' . .
same thing goes for when i used to wear boots w/jeans tucked in. when that happens it makes me mad but kinda pleased that i was there first and not because i was following some mass trend but becuase i liked it . .

 

[softgrey]

Originally posted by Nemova@Mar 27th, 2004 - 2:56 pm
I'm quite comfortable sticking to my own style. Nevermind the latest look, whether it comes from Vogue or the closest mall. I'm not really into anticipating the next trend, since I believe clothes are supposed to make a statement about who I am. And having curly long hair when everybody cuts it short or gets japanese straightening already makes me the main offender.

i your hair nemova...