When Public Feedback Goes Wrong

Originally posted by softgrey+Mar 27th, 2004 - 9:08 pm--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(softgrey @ Mar 27th, 2004 - 9:08 pm)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-Nemova@Mar 27th, 2004 - 2:56 pm
I'm quite comfortable sticking to my own style. Nevermind the latest look, whether it comes from Vogue or the closest mall. I'm not really into anticipating the next trend, since I believe clothes are supposed to make a statement about who I am. And having curly long hair when everybody cuts it short or gets japanese straightening already makes me the main offender.
i :heart: your hair nemova... [/b][/quote]
:heart: thank you! :flower:
 
Originally posted by OriginalGucciGirl@Mar 17th, 2004 - 2:25 pm
BE YOURSELF and DONT LET JEALOUS PEOPLE CHANGE YOU :heart:
definitely a mantra to live by :smile:
 
I'm quite comfortable sticking to my own style. Nevermind the latest look, whether it comes from Vogue or the closest mall. I'm not really into anticipating the next trend, since I believe clothes are supposed to make a statement about who I am. And having curly long hair when everybody cuts it short or gets japanese straightening already makes me the main offender.

Nemova,
Same here. I live in a world where straight bleach blonde/over highlighted hair is the norm. I also have curly hair and everytime I go out, at least one or two of my "acquaintaces" ask me why I didn't straighten it.
I also don't carry Louis Vuitton/Gucci which makes me stick out like a sore thumb in the Russian community. Faust can attest to that :wink:
 
(Nemova @ Mar 27th, 2004 - 2:56 pm)
I'm quite comfortable sticking to my own style. Nevermind the latest look, whether it comes from Vogue or the closest mall. I'm not really into anticipating the next trend, since I believe clothes are supposed to make a statement about who I am. And having curly long hair when everybody cuts it short or gets japanese straightening already makes me the main offender.

Nemova, I couldn't agree more! :flower: How a person dresses is intended to give insight into their personality. It's more than a matter of putting on whatever some fashion mag or TV program tells you to. People who blindly follow trends have no style, imo. It's easy to be a robot but difficult to be an individual.
 
Got the stare to, well I live in a not so big town where people like to dress …but simple and everyone looks a bit the same Get some good comments but also bad some people just stare like: what in earth are you wearing???!!! Sometimes I just don’t care but sometimes I think those people are really not open minded and hate that,.., but have to admit make comments about others...., yep about those people that look all the same :P
But I just wished that there where more people that like to dress up… a bit creativity in fashion is always welcome! like in Harajuku (japan)
 
I can relate. Middle School is all about rebeling in socially acceptable ways and trying to impress people. I confuse my fellow students 'cause I dress like sid vicious but have a 4.0 GPA, and I don't 'trade up' (y'know, where you hang out with one group of people until an opening presents itself in a more popular crew). They don't understand my music. They don't understand my clothes. They don't know my slang. So they try and make me feel bad because I'm not a part of the great unwashed, as if I was ever envious of their tacky hair and and fake Burrberry bags and ugly pastel fleece.

They can pretend they're disgusted, but when they're friends aren't around they ask me where I bought my shoes. :lol:
 
Originally posted by slinky_vagabond@Apr 27th, 2004 - 4:22 pm
I can relate. Middle School is all about rebeling in socially acceptable ways and trying to impress people. I confuse my fellow students 'cause I dress like sid vicious but have a 4.0 GPA, and I don't 'trade up' (y'know, where you hang out with one group of people until an opening presents itself in a more popular crew). They don't understand my music. They don't understand my clothes. They don't know my slang. So they try and make me feel bad because I'm not a part of the great unwashed, as if I was ever envious of their tacky hair and and fake Burrberry bags and ugly pastel fleece.

They can pretend they're disgusted, but when they're friends aren't around they ask me where I bought my shoes. :lol:
:clap: Thats the spirit...see thats the awesome thing I noticed about you Gremlin, you are so wise and kool and so sure of yourself in middle school. Just :censored: the people who critize you...it's becuase you aren't a clone of everyone else...

I feel the same way...I get so much crap for what I wear as well. I try not to, but sometimes it just ruins the day when people say mean things about you or your outfit that you KNOW is cute. My highschool is just a bunch of robots wearing the same old crap carrying fake Burburry and LV....and :angry: some passing it for real...PLleeeaazzee...

Some people will never get their own unique style...great for us that have....

P.S. Grem, Sid and the rest of the Pistols are awesome and :censored: em if they tell you otherwise. :flower:
 
ughh i hate my school! They think "style" is fake birkenstocks and those hideous north face jackets! Everyone dresses the same and just because some people actually dress different and have style, they look at them like they're aliens :(
 
Originally posted by CelineChic@Mar 17th, 2004 - 2:22 pm
Unfortunately I dont handle it very well :blush:

Sometimes I get offended and forget about having class.

I had come back from a trip to NYC and had bought a pair of Manolos when they started to become popular when SJP was wearing them on SATC. ANYWAY, I went back home and went to a bistro with my buddy and his new girlfriend. I of course wore my new shoes. :blush:

His girl had the balls to say to me "Honey those look like plastic shoes that the girls working the corner wear"


I retorted with "I'll wear these over your 15$ wal-mart shoes any day. These probably cost more than your months rent" :shock:


I felt terrible and my face turned red. I dont know what got into me. So now when people make comments I either say "Well I like it" or "Too each their own opinion"


It still upsets me though especially when its people who have no personal style themselves :innocent:
I know just wot you mean.
 
I hate getting stares but I am "starting" to get used to it!

I don't consider myself being trendy; I only wear what I like. And I couldn't care less about what people think about me. :wink:

And this comes from an ex-insecure kid. I remember when I was in high school, I used to be the ULTIMATE trend follower. I'd stare at other teens to check out what was hot and what was not and tried to copy them.... :wacko: I'd admire those with funkier and more different styles, but would never follow their fashion steps because I was too insecure to dare trying new things. Fortunately, I've changed a lot throughout the years, now I have SO MANY things to think about that I don't really have time to mind about what others think of me or what I am wearing. OF COURSE I haven't gone from INSECURE to CONFIDENT in two seconds, it took me some time and a few events to discover my true self and STOP MINDING about what others think of me. Now I wear stuff that I find nice even though it's not hip and cool, I also don't mind if I happen to buy trendy stuff; I stick to what I like that's it that's all. And I've also become more "game"; I like original cloths.
 
Originally posted by VersaceW11+Jun 30th, 2004 - 5:17 am--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (VersaceW11 @ Jun 30th, 2004 - 5:17 am)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-CelineChic@Mar 17th, 2004 - 2:22 pm
Unfortunately I dont handle it very well :blush:

Sometimes I get offended and forget about having class.

I had come back from a trip to NYC and had bought a pair of Manolos when they started to become popular when SJP was wearing them on SATC. ANYWAY, I went back home and went to a bistro with my buddy and his new girlfriend. I of course wore my new shoes. :blush:

His girl had the balls to say to me "Honey those look like plastic shoes that the girls working the corner wear"


I retorted with "I'll wear these over your 15$ wal-mart shoes any day. These probably cost more than your months rent" :shock:


I felt terrible and my face turned red. I dont know what got into me. So now when people make comments I either say "Well I like it" or "Too each their own opinion"


It still upsets me though especially when its people who have no personal style themselves :innocent:
I know just wot you mean. [/b][/quote]
:o :heart:

That wasn't exactly "nice", but it's not like she didn't have it coming to her. If she has the gall to insult your [nice] shoes, you have every right to retort. :clap:





I draw inspiration from things I see in magazines and on the runway, as well as on TFS, but I never wear something just because it's a trend (wedge espadrilles :sick:). If I don't like it, it's not going on me. And you've got to love the thrift stores, baby. :woot:
 
Nearly everyone stares at my clothes ahaha I love it, even when im in simple clothes people just can't help but stare, looking at most of there tasteless high street trends normally makes me feel i look good - if that makes scense!
 
bumping this old topic... ^_^ do you ever get weird comments from complete strangers regarding your fashion statements?

I went to a museum (one of those historical homes where the guides dress in period costume) not too long ago, and I happened to be wearing a floor-grazing a-line cotton skirt. the lady at the ticket desk told me "oh you look like you should be leading tours!". I'm not sure how she meant that comment, but it made me cringe.:doh:
that's pretty representative though of the public feedback I get in the real world. mostly people make comments that suggest that they think I might be a little eccentric/costumey. ah well, it kind of goes over me unless they say something snide, and I enjoy the amusement at their stares. I was not a very rebellious teenager, so fashion is my way of a rebelling. :P
 
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utopia, I know what you mean by this!

I read through this whole topic and am familiar with "the stare", but within the past year and a half or so most people I know don't have rude comments to make anymore, they actually have nice things to say, and the next time I see them they are trying to copy what I've worn! ^_^ I think the fact that I developed a whole lot more confidence in my clothes and myself in general has a lot to do with this.

HOWEVER, recently I saw the movie The Notebook for the first time and for some reason fell absolutely in love with Allie's circa-1945ish clothes. She was supposed to be from a wealthy family, so her clothes just looked so gorgeous and luxe. I just thought they were beautiful, so I started hitting the vintage from the 1940's. I mean, nothing I wore looked completely costume-y or anything. I wore pieces that I loved from that time period, but still tried to keep it looking at least somewhat modern. I had a few comments, completely random people I was standing in front of in line at the store or a waitress at a restaurant asking me if I was heading to a re-enactment of WWII later or if I was in a play about the 1940's. :lol: Whatever, I love the stuff, and a lot of people also asked me where I found my skirt, or blouse, and complimented me...

It just comes down to the old truth about a lot of prejudice and rude comments...if people aren't familiar with something, if it's not like them, they probably aren't going to like it. It's just human nature. They can't understand it and they don't know how to react. If you live in an area that seriously lacks any diversity in style (like I do), people are going to be confused and possibly mean. Who cares if you love your clothes though. At least you'll be memborable.:wink:
 
i hate it when people give me this shocked look and then compliment me on something i'm wearing... like "wow :shock: that's a nice dress". i also get ":shock: that's a big bag!" quite often or ":shock: how much did that cost?"...don't really know how to read that...
 
I'm amazed at strangers commenting on others style and dress. Unless it's to say something nice, it just seems like such bad manners to me. As for asking how much something cost......:shock:

shopsmuch isn't it funny how some people just don't get vintage. To own and wear a beautiful unique piece from over 60 years ago feels amazing to me.

utopia, I wonder if people that make comments aren't just a tad envious that they don't have the creativity to dress as you do. People sometimes say strange things to justify their own feelings.
 
I totally agree, but unlike most of you, I still let the 'Stare' effect me.

When I was in High School (just over 2 years ago now) I would be CONSTANTLY critised for wearing something different. I had a (so-called) friend who would b*tch at me all the time, try to tell me what to wear etc etc, my mum always said she was jealous of me but I never believed it at the time.

She would insult most of my wardrobe, bags and shoes, but could then be found wearing something identical to what she had called disgusting before!

I did not dress to shock or be different, I just didnt like some of the clothes that everyone wore. Like when the fashion for having the words "ANGEL" or "DIRTY GIRL" in sequins on the back of your **** on your jeans was here, I point blank refused to touch them. I found them tacky and tasteless. Yet for not wearing them I was judged!

These days I still wont go near some fashion crazes, such as Juicy Couture, Von Dutch and Burberry. Its just over done now.

Anyway, I am now older and wiser and I dress how I choose to now.

I mean if everyone was the same the world would be a very boring place! :D
 
This thread is like therapy :blush: . Very empowering and positive. I'm such a nerd, I know, but it has put me in a good mood. Much as a kickass outfit would.

Also, I want to admit that I stare at girls and their outfits often (not in a creepy pervy way! :rolleyes: ) because I am just curious and observing them. People who give you a once over are not always thinking "omg has she heard of a mirror? did she get dressed in the dark?" Mostly if I look it's because I'm interested and I'm thinking about whether whatever they're wearing would look good on me or where did she buy it or I'm just thinking "huh, cute bag/earrings/jeans/whatever". If someone looks really bad I don't stare. It's like string at someone who's handicapped. I think getting looks is a reward, not a punishment. When I get looks it makes me feel a little uncomfortable and self-conscious, but I know I wouldn't be getting looks if I looked bad. SO take it as a compliment ladies (and gentlemen?)! B)
 
i've never gotten the stare but then again i dress more classic than trendy. i have my own style but where i live there are more people than not that dress out there in whatever statement they are trying to make.

i must admit i have given the stare myself a few times *cough*head-to-toe-louis-vuitton-girl*cough*
 
pinksatin said:
Also, I want to admit that I stare at girls and their outfits often (not in a creepy pervy way! :rolleyes: ) because I am just curious and observing them. People who give you a once over are not always thinking "omg has she heard of a mirror? did she get dressed in the dark?" Mostly if I look it's because I'm interested and I'm thinking about whether whatever they're wearing would look good on me or where did she buy it or I'm just thinking "huh, cute bag/earrings/jeans/whatever". If someone looks really bad I don't stare. It's like string at someone who's handicapped. I think getting looks is a reward, not a punishment. When I get looks it makes me feel a little uncomfortable and self-conscious, but I know I wouldn't be getting looks if I looked bad. SO take it as a compliment ladies (and gentlemen?)! B)

This may be true, but there actually ARE many people rude enough to stare at you if they think you look bad. You can usually tell by the look on their faces if it's like a look of disgust, you can just tell they're thinking, "OH MY GOD WHAT IS SHE WEARING???" instead of staring at you in awe of the loveliness of your outfit. ^_^


And yes, charlottesometimes, it's really odd to me that some people just don't get vintage clothing at all. I love my vintage clothes. It's almost like I'm in awe of them when I'm wearing them. Because not only are they so well-made compared to today's clothes, but they are unique and have their own history...
 

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