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Oh you’re absolutely right! Toxic body shaming is so much better![]()
I think it is fantastic that nowadays people can feel more comfortable in their own skin, like people with vitiligo, with disabilities, people showing signs of aging (seriously, ageism is a bigger problem than body shaming imo), etc, and while the idea in theory is great and I support it 100%, in reality it turns into smth that is not good at all. For example, some women in the US don't want to be weighted at the doctor's office anymre because they are not comfortable (with the reality of things), I see people terrorizing brands on social media when they see a girl modeling clothes with reference "X wears size Large", they say: "How dare you say it's large, she is not even large" (she is). People (at least in the US, from my observation) are starting to lose a touch with reality and what actual normal, healthy size is. Also important to mention is that every industry comes with a standard: there is a standard in my industry, there is an industry standard in yours, why do regular women compare themselves to models? Their looks is not their job. Just because you don't look like Gisele Bundchen (name any model), doesn't mean you are not (beautiful). I am not going to cry if I can't hit a high note like Mariah or run like an Olympic champion, so why should I be upset that industry based off of certain looks might not be attainable for other? It's a problem if we feel inferior seeing people that are prettier, taller, thinner, bigger, smarter, etc. Re the shoot, I agree the styling and creative direction are not helping, also what happened with dressing for your body type? I have a family friend that is bigger, but "fat" is not smth I associate her with, because she just knows her body and carries herself beautifully, but here I see crop tops, white see-through leggings, skirts borderline showing smth you shouldn't see. What is wrong with presenting yourself in the best way possible@Sweet rus, I guess I get where you are coming from but wouldn't you say that it's nice that people can finally (well, not really but we're making baby steps in the right direction) feel safe and comfortable in their own skin (back rolls included) without feeling an enormous pressure by society to change themselves just so they could fit into some ridiculous body standards we all unfortunately still hold on to? There's always people who are striving for the perfectly fit and standard hot look (and kudos to them), but what about the people who just want to feel good about themselves the way they are? Why is it mandatory for fat people to lose weight in order to feel accepted? And of course people don't want to hear criticism when it comes to their bodies, because frankly people should just mind their own f*cking business. Other people's weight should always be off limits. But Paloma's a model and I suppose we are here to comment on her appearance in which case I must add that this is not obesity. She looks great, she looks happy and she feels safe and comfortable in her body and that's all that really matters and I applaud her for that! She rocks that Miu Miu, but the styling sabotaged her. And as offensive as skinny people around the world may find her, I'll bet there's just as many little fat girls finding inspiration and motivation in Paloma to stop worrying about their looks and to live their life to their fullest potentials.
And that's my rant for the night. Just my two cents on the topic.
Re the shoot, I agree the styling and creative direction are not helping, also what happened with dressing for your body type? I have a family friend that is bigger, but "fat" is not smth I associate her with, because she just knows her body and carries herself beautifully, but here I see crop tops, white see-through leggings, skirts borderline showing smth you shouldn't see. What is wrong with presenting yourself in the best way possible
I'll just repeat: "Quod licet Iovi, non licet bovi."
And this isn't any kind of body shaming (at least not from my part!), but a STYLING shaming: all my life I have been taught that fashion and style mean expressing ourselves in a sophisticated and visually appealing way, but now (i.e. in the past couple of years) it's like all fashion magazines tries to convince me how, in fact, fashion and style mean dressing as inappropriately as possible for one's own physical build and /or age, so it looks as cheap and vulgar as possible!
Personally, I never (blindly) follow the seasonal trends, but primarily think whether a certain clothes suit my own personality and, certainly, my age; because no matter how muscular my body is, and well toned my legs are, at 47 wearing ANYTHING above my knees for me is simply UNACCEPTABLE!![]()
That Cruz cover is making me feel so uncomfortable..
The fact remains the photo was taken when he was 16. I hope I'm not just being a prude or something, I know the age of consent in the UK is 16, not 18 like it is in the US, but he's still a minor. I feel strongly that the industry, regardless of technicalities and legalities, should be pushing more ethical standards. Putting an arguably sexualized photo of someone who is a minor, a child on the cover of the "body" issue of your magazine alongside sexualized photos of adult models wearing schoolgirl inspired outfits is definitely crossing a line. Where are his parents? Don't they have enough sense and resources to be focusing on giving their kids an education or something instead of thrusting them onto the unwilling public in such a gross way? I'm disgusted but unfortunately not surprised.
Perfectly said.People (at least in the US, from my observation) are starting to lose a touch with reality and what actual normal, healthy size is. Also important to mention is that every industry comes with a standard: there is a standard in my industry, there is an industry standard in yours, why do regular women compare themselves to models? Their looks is not their job. Just because you don't look like Gisele Bundchen (name any model), doesn't mean you are not (beautiful). I am not going to cry if I can't hit a high note like Mariah or run like an Olympic champion, so why should I be upset that industry based off of certain looks might not be attainable for other? It's a problem if we feel inferior seeing people that are prettier, taller, thinner, bigger, smarter, etc.
It's a bit hard for me to explain here, because I feel like it's common sense. There is nothing wrong with knowing your strong sides and weaknesses, why do we want to find jeans that make our butt higher and perkier, legs - longer and leaner, waist - slimmer, why do we choose a haircut that compliments our face shape? Why do we have to put focus on the imperfections (what is up with this exhibitionism?) , when we can present ourselves in a better way? Why do chubby people like to, say, wear super thin stretchy fabric that emphasizes every roll, instead of getting more structured pieces that will sort of gather them and create a nice shape? Btw fat does not = curvy, curvy is about proportions, but nowadays it's a politically correct term used for bigger woman for some reason. Shouldn't fashion and styling teach us how to embrace what we have and get the most out of our looks? My whole life I genuinely want people to look nice, but I feel some just purposely want to put their worst foot forward. We don't see such models dressed properly because : a) it's harder to dress someone who is not slim (and borderline impossible if you are obese), b) stylists don't know what to do with it, c) clothes are done poorly. Have you seen recent Vogue Russia by any chance? I think softer, rounder body is captured so much nicer in comparison to this shoot.But that's part of the problem, right here. Why is there a belief that curves and imperfections should be hidden? Cropped garments are literally the it item of the season, why should there be a size limit on who gets to wear them? I understand your point about standards, but it is problematic because there is no inclusivity when it comes to garment sizes. We hardly see properly styled bigger models in editorial because there are no clothes made to fit them. There's hardly any in fast fashion either. It's always leggings, simple tops and garments that are oversized to hide as much as they possibly can. In editorial the models are either sexualized or stacked in unneccessary heaps of fabric, no in-between. It's wrong that people are expected to feel ashamed of their bodies, and it isn't a personal issue of regular people comparing themselves to supermodels. It happens because they know if they were ever to dare and wear the kind of clothes that your normal, healthy size wears, they'd be ridiculed like Paloma is right now. I know that there's a notion that when it comes to high fashion, people should work on themselves to fit the designer clothes, it seems very common. But if anything is unhealthy when it comes to size in fashion industry, then it's this specific belief that bodies conform to clothes. It is supposed to be the opposite and a mark of a great designer and tailor should be the ability to construct clothes that would flatter any size. But unfortunately that isn't the case and then we end up with mishaps like this. Although I still believe Paloma would've looked great in this particular outfit, but the beauty team and the pose ruin it.