Once an ugly duckling.......

[Whitelinen]

^ What kind of hair do you have? Go to a good hairdresser and voilà. I don't think there is any type of hair that cannot be beautiful if maintained in the right way.

 

[Ghost]

u can't style my hair like you can't style the pubic hair unless you rebond and straigten it...my hair is due to hormonal disorder

 

[indigoskies]

Great way to put it Ghost.
My hair is also difficult to handle, but I wouldn't akin it to that of pubic hair.

 

[flutterbugfly]

Meh...I'm still an ugly duckling, HELP! I used to be chubby and "cute" and now I'm just "cute", but I wish I were pretty.

 

[cestmagique]

^hey... at least you're cute right? lol. going from cute to pretty sounds like it just requires a little mascara and some girly accessories, headbands, earrings, that sort of thing.

 

[flutterbugfly]

^^ hmm, I guess. Everyone thinks my older sister is really pretty, so maybe I have potential! haha.

 

[kalli]

boy does this sound familiar. people tend to think I'm a bit cold when really I'm just deathly shy...

The worst thing about this is that because of the fact that I don`t show emotions people(even the ones close to me) think I don`t have them when in fact it`s the opposite,I`m very sensitive and easily hurt.If I don`t cry every 5 minutes doesn`t mean I`m a block of ice.

Meh...I'm still an ugly duckling, HELP! I used to be chubby and "cute" and now I'm just "cute", but I wish I were pretty.

Cute is good,so you`re not an ugly duckling,you`re more like cute swan who is going to turn into a beautiful swan.

 

[Ghost]

once i rebond my hair and straighten it. you know what everyone can't recognise me.
however, it's a cinderella's ball night....only lasted for 2 months....

 

[newprincesita]

I think some women with difficult or odd features should´t go the "preety" way, but embrace their strangeness by making it unique. Diane Vreeland or Coco Chanel had definitely strong faces, specially for an age where preety and well proportioned was the ideal. Nowadays people accept better strange faces, big noses, etc.

I have a BIG chin (Not really Jay Leno but definitely you notice my chin). I used to hate to wear my hair up, or having my picture taken in profile. Now I wear chignons all the time and make fun of my chin. I cannot hide it anyways, so I´d better befriend it.

Regarding hair issues. I remember reading about Jackie Kennedy, who had very difficult, coarse and frizzy hair. She ended up "creating" a style for her hair, that glorious "helmet" of hair, instead of fighting it.

 

[cestmagique]

The worst thing about this is that because of the fact that I don`t show emotions people(even the ones close to me) think I don`t have them when in fact it`s the opposite,I`m very sensitive and easily hurt.If I don`t cry every 5 minutes doesn`t mean I`m a block of ice.

omg yes it's the same exact thing with me.

 

[cestmagique]

I think some women with difficult or odd features should´t go the "preety" way, but embrace their strangeness by making it unique.

what a lovely philosophy! I've definitely had to learn this lesson. it's much easier to go with your unique features than to fight them for years. there's just no point in self-hate, especially over something as unsubstantial as how you look.

 

[oulala]

I was an ugly duckling. Acne, bad hair, all around funny looking

My mom cut my hair short when I was young, and I can't really blame her because she didn't know that would = a bad case of triangle head. I CAN blame her for maintaining it regardless. lol My skin was okay until I went to Japan when I was 16, then it was destroyed and took a LOT of work to get it to all disappear (scars and all). Years.

I didn't figure out how to tame my curly hair until I was 14+, and even then it took me YEARS to really master it. Same goes with my skin, make-up. But when I did, wow. Most people think I'm a knock-out. Still, I have a hard time with my self-esteem, because it takes so much maintenance to look good for me. But I get compliments, so I can live. B)

 

[kalli]

I think some women with difficult or odd features should´t go the "preety" way, but embrace their strangeness by making it unique. Diane Vreeland or Coco Chanel had definitely strong faces, specially for an age where preety and well proportioned was the ideal. Nowadays people accept better strange faces, big noses, etc.

Very well said,look at J.Lo before her all the magazines had articles on how to make your butt smaller, now it`s all about making it fuller.I`m not a fan of hers but she turned what seemed like a flaw into her biggest asset.Or Sophia Loren who didn`t have the small delicate features film stars usually had in that era but she became one of the sexiest movie stars ever.

 

[misssakura]

Oh man, I'm getting uglier and uglier. Is that supposed to happen as one gets older?

 

[bismarck]

I think some women with difficult or odd features should´t go the "preety" way, but embrace their strangeness by making it unique.

I'm getting to that point, not mastering it like Diana Vreeland or anything, but I don't wear as much unflattering, "in" items like I used to. It's hard, because I want to look like Kate Moss or Ana Beatriz Barros, but I have to dress in a completely different way for my bodytype. Oh well, I guess.

 

[bluerise]

ohh...i used to be ugly...really=) but then, the moment came when i had my eyebrows shaped...and i really can´t say often enough, how eybrows can change your whole face...and it´s important too to have them shaped correctly, i mean the shape has to flatter your face...maybe it´s not imaginable that my eyebrows changed me so damn, but they were really really thick,had no shape and they were like too much, now they´re slim (not too slim) and good shaped, and i´m really happy about that..

 

[kalli]

Yes they can,I have bushy eyebrows too so every week I pluck more hairs than most people have in their brows and still have quite thick ones.It`s a drag having to pluck so often and so much,but on the up side you can give them any shape you want.

 

[Whitelinen]

It seems to me that many people weren't really "ugly ducklings" but merely needed their brows shaped or a new hair cut. Is here anyone who's life really is effected a lot but being "an ugly duckling"? People don't like to be with you, you are not approached in any manner? I regard that if I would've been pretty I would've had so much pain as I have gone through. I think I would have friends and people would believe in me if I looked different. Has anyone here noticed the same? I am a person who is never notices, and when noticed is disliked. That's pretty far from just having wrongly shaped eyebrows.

I've got my hair cut by a good hair stylist, my acne is clearing up and is only mild these days, I don't use too much make-up, my eyebrows are shaped, I am not over-/underweight, I do take care of my hygiene... these are the things most of you list as the things that were wrong. None of these are wrong with me, I cannot make minor alterations such as these to be any more good looking. What should people like me do? If I have got these things checked, why am I still an ugly duckling?

 

[ParadEyes]

It seems to me that many people weren't really "ugly ducklings" but merely needed their brows shaped or a new hair cut. Is here anyone who's life really is effected a lot but being "an ugly duckling"?

yes i have experienced that. my uncle used to constantly make fun of how ugly i looked as a kid. he constantly compared me to my sisters and made me cry-- and he wasn't the only one.
now after 6 years he saw me and was stunned saying that he never thought i would 'grow up to be this beautiful '
recently i have met people who could not even recognize me, including ex best friends
the weird thing is that even people who haven't seen me in three years bother me with questions like " what's the secret behind your drastic change? plastic surgery? "...ouch

 

[cestmagique]

ParadEyes, what changed so much as you got older?