Boobs

[Eurasian Mélange]

How can you say I have made a good point when you completely disagree with me and still blame everything on men? That doesn't make sense.

I truly believe that men are the driving force behind the desire to have great breasts. Why would women want to get them done? What do they care if they have smaller breasts? I understand that it's a confidence booster for some... but confidence among women, or men? Men, I would say.

I used to post on a forum dedicated to women and their breasts. I have spoken to and have seen various posts from many women who feel that their breasts are too small and all of them have stated the same reason for feeling that way: they are not in proportion. Not because they have been told they are flat by men, not because they think men like bigger boobs, but because they think their boobs are not large enough in comparison to the rest of their bodies. Some thought they looked more like children than women and that is not men's fault, either. Every sex education programme tells children that "women grow breasts". They don't say how much or that they may not grow anything at all and they usually show an average pair of C cups as the end result. That's why having breasts is a confidence booster for women: breasts are defined as secondary sexual characteristics. Breasts are seen by many of these women as something that "makes them" a woman. Even though they have a womb and ovaries they still feel "less of a woman" because they don't have the secondary characteristics that most women do. It's all in their heads and has nothing to do with what men say they want.

 

[Erin]

^ That's fine. We both have our different views on the topic.

How can you say I have made a good point when you completely disagree with me and still blame everything on men? That doesn't make sense.

AND, I said men are a big contributor... not the sole group to blame... and I'm making that out to be some crazy thing and that men are bad... no way... but that's how I feel. I think you have a good point, but I stand by my OPINION on the topic.

 

[brokenenglish]

I guess I am not the typical girl...
I don't feel very attached to my breasts.
I go days without thinking of them....
kind of like a knee or an elbow.
They are nice though, don't get me wrong.

 

[leblue15]

mine are small, I used to want bigger ones but now I dont care about them anymore. Im happy with them....
Most of the model have small boobs, a lot are really flat but they still look gorgeous and the clothes look great on them

 

[Eurasian Mélange]

Erin - My last post was not my opinion on the topic. Those were facts about women who thought their breasts were too small. I wasn't saying, "I think that they feel this," that is how they feel and that entire paragraph was a summary of all of their feelings. I myself have also been there in the past and know that my insecurity had nothing to do with men whatsoever. They are my reasons for believing it is the women and their own insecurities that cause all of these breast enhancement surgeries. May I know what your reasons are for believing men are one of the main causes for all these insecure women? What is it that makes you feel so strongly that men are one of the big culprits?

I also think it has a lot to do with culture. America in general is not comfortable with nudity, whereas places such as Europe are. I have been to implant websites where they document breast enhancement surgeries from all over the world and 90% of the women getting them done are American women. The other 10% were mostly from conservative Asian countries. It seems that those who are in a culture that is more comfortable with nudity see it more often and knowing that real people have so many variations they don't develop insecurities about their bodies and feel the need to change them.

 

[Irene_A]

Maybe not as much as people who are not used to seeing them but I live in a place where sunbathing topless is absolutely normal and people are as insecure as in any other place. In a recent survey a big part of the population said they would change lots of things from their body if they could, they don't do it because they can't afford it, they are afraid of surgery or they don't like it, but not because they feel good the way they are or don't think they'd like to look better.

 

[MarilynMonroe]

I like having big boobs and it has nothing to do with men, I just like them myself.

 

[tifa]

My boobs are one of the things about myself I wouldn't change. Actually, I wouldn't change that much about myself except maybe I'd like to be a little taller so trousers would fit me

 

[Guessgirl96]

my boobs swole up at least a cup size the day before my period, it's the last day right now and they've barley gone down I hope they do soon.

 

[adi]

i like my boobs. they are perfect size and i wouldn't want them any bigger or smaller. the only thing i would really want to have is to get them firmer..

 

[misstarshine]

i like my boobs. they are perfect size and i wouldn't want them any bigger or smaller. the only thing i would really want to have is to get them firmer..

I agree the main issue i have with mine is that they could be a bit firmer, but oh well.

I do have reasonable sized ones and sometimes i wish they were smaller. I find that my boobs can get me the wrong sort of attention from men.

i would like to be able to wear no bra sometimes. I also think that clothes often look better on smaller chested women.

But i'm pretty happy generally. My body issues are with other parts.

 

[Alliecat]

I am usually a B cup but have gone up to a C/D cup due to having a baby recently. Fortunately I haven put on much weight at all and so my bust is almost the only thing that as gone up in size.

And boy... the increase in attention is astounding - and not particlarly welcome either. Its not that I'm out of proportion, infact if I look at myself critically I think that this size is a better overall fit for my frame (I'm short and have an hour glass figure).

Do I want them this big permanently? Not sure, but probably not as I just get too much unwanted attention. it is interesting thou to experience the longer, more lingering looks I get, from men and women. (its all fine till I start seeping milk and then...)

 

[Erin]

my boobs swole up at least a cup size the day before my period, it's the last day right now and they've barley gone down I hope they do soon.

Hah, yes, mine do this a week before my period... sometimes a day or two more... I call them my Period Breasts (or as a close friend of my calls them, my PB's). My boyfriend loves this time of month. I must say, I don't mind going from a big B, small C to a full-blown C.

 

[mediocrityrules]

my breasts change so much, it is so strange. if i lose even 5 pounds i am flat, gain five and they look really good but the rest of me doesn't.

i'm trying my best to stay on the curvier side, and maintain a womanly shape and not give into the androgynous ideal if it is not naturally how my body is. i'm definitely all about acceptance of all sizes. although i think huge nipples are kinda gross, or the long ones, i like mine they are perfect ha. but i'm a largely heterosexual female so I guess I dont really need to worry about it.

 

[brokenenglish]

my breasts change so much, it is so strange. if i lose even 5 pounds i am flat, gain five and they look really good but the rest of me doesn't.

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I really have this problem as well.

 

[kateelle]

Eurasian Mélange- I agree with your posts. I'm not comfortable with small breasts because of MEN or what whatever their views. I simply don't care what they think, but there is association with being a women and having breasts, so of course if ones lacking in that area, they would have some internal insecurities about not being women-ly enough.

 

[mediocrityrules]

my breasts change so much, it is so strange. if i lose even 5 pounds i am flat, gain five and they look really good but the rest of me doesn't.

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I really have this problem as well.

glad i'm not the only one!

 

[mediocrityrules]

men and breasts: in my experience (which admittedly, is not extensive) most men i have dated don't care so much about breast size. the standard b cup seemed to be ideal, or at least expected and there is so much to enjoy about the body anyway. there also seem to be a lot of *** men as well, am I allowed to say that? not that objectfication of any body part is desirable, but we all seem to have at least one body part we are proud of.
<p>We women seem to have such a strange relationship with wanting to be looked at like meat, but also resenting it. I like being desired by strangers, to an extent. What do you guys think? In an age where symbolism (ex:thin woman, small breasts=educated, intellegent, classy) and biology (fertile supple, sensual flesh and breasts) are both important....

 

[Erin]

Just to verify... I never said that men loved BIG breasts in particular... I just said that in general, many men tend to like breasts... even if they're just a girlfriends'... that's all. I've noticed that people have responded to my post in a negative manner... and I'm in no way saying men are the enemy.

 

[brokenenglish]

^ I agree...
I know that when I muster up some clevage 9 out of 10 men are caught getting a look....
they can't help it... most men just love boobs... but hey they were meant to right?...

Well...maybe not all...
I remember I was sick once and was about 10lbs under my normal weight so I had no boobs and some guy told me he liked my chest bones... I swear! I thought he was a bit strange.