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'Divorce turned me off SEX for a year'
AFTER HER FAILED MARRIAGE TO GOTH ROCKER MARILYN MANSON, DITA VON TEESE DID THE UNTHINKABLE - FOR HER - AND BECAME CELIBATE. SHE TELLS FABULOUS ABOUT GETTING BACK IN THE SADDLE
By Louise Gannon
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Dita Von Teese bursts out laughing as she points to a Hermès riding crop peeping out from under her bed in the sumptuous boudoir of her Hollywood home. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]To Dita it's much more than a sexy prop. It's a symbol that - after a year of celibacy brought on by her divorce - she's back to herself and has never felt so alive. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]"Let's say I'm enjoying myself at the moment," explains the world-famous burlesque star often dubbed The Sexiest Woman On The Planet. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]''I have suddenly become quite lecherous and it's fun. I absolutely adore good sex. Like anyone, I think about sex a lot and let's face it, in times like these it's one thing you can really enjoy because it doesn't cost a thing." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]In the pale and very perfect flesh, 36-year-old Dita is stunning. Her body is kept in super-seductress shape by a lifelong regime of Pilates, ballet and healthy eating, not to mention those corsets, which hone her 23in waist down to a tiny 16in - that's the size of a thigh to the rest of us. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]"It's my job to look good naked," she says, caressing the hem of her figure-hugging retro dress. "I think it's true that the more sex you have, the more sexy you become. Plus, the more sex you get, the more you want it. I'm single and for the first time I'm enjoying that." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Although Dita *does admit she'd like to be in a proper relationship. "I want someone with that extra-special sexual chemistry, where you just want to devour them all the time. That's very hard to find, but I'm looking." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Eight years ago, Dita believed she'd found her "extra-special" man when she began dating the intriguingly bizarre Marilyn Manson, 40. It was an interesting match: the stripper who'd reinvented herself with black hair dye and a beauty spot tattoo, and the make-up-mad singer with his own alter-ego. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]They married in 2005, but within a year she'd filed for divorce, unable to put up with his partying or budding relationship with 21-year-old actress Evan Rachel Wood, with whom he has since split. Dita was so devastated by her marriage breakdown, she abandoned sex for a year - a tough call for someone whose sexuality exudes from every pore of her 5ft 6in frame.[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] It's an image that she has worked hard to achieve. She wasn't always the raven-haired seductress we know today. Dita was originally born Heather Sweet, a natural blonde (gasp!) who grew up in Michigan. After training as a costume designer at college, she began stripping at 19, setting herself apart from the other girls with her vintage-inspired outfits and retro hairstyles. Her risqué moniker was a tribute to silent film actress Dita Parlo, coupled with a name she found in the phone book. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]A career as an actress and fetish model followed, with Dita becoming famous as a 'tightlacer', lacing herself into 16½in corsets. After appearing in Playboy in 1999, 2001 and 2002 she finally made it on the cover in 2004 - and so arrived Von Teese . . . [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]But it's not all stage play. This is the woman who's admitted to experimenting with threesomes, lesbian relationships and bondage, who regularly strips in a giant Martini glass and has made her millions playing the ultimate public temptress. Kylie Minogue even described her as "the most sensual woman you could ever meet".[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] But following the split, Dita lost her mojo. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]"After the divorce I was going through complete heartbreak," she says. "It changes you. I spent the first year not having sex at all, which was strange as I still continued to convey sex in my work. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]"But I didn't feel ready to have another partner. I didn't feel the inner chemistry you need to want to have sex. It wasn't there. I needed to get the past out of my system and to listen to my emotions. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]"After a split a lot of men put on a band-aid by getting another woman. I wanted to deal with the break-up and learn from it and I've done that now. I wanted to come through it and be able to love again as if my heart had never been broken." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]But Dita has not quite had her fill of bad boys. "You know what?" she says. "I absolutely accept that I'll have my heart broken again, and probably again and again. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]"But I don't think I'm the sort of girl who'll be celebrating a 75th anniversary with a man. I actually enjoy rollercoasters of life, and with great passion sometimes comes great heartbreak. I think I'll end up belonging to the club of glamorous women like Lana Turner and Betty Grable, who had big, adventurous love affairs. The road less travelled can be more frightening, but it's a lot of fun." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Then she pauses and adds: "The only thing is, at the moment I'm definitely not looking at musicians. I'm attracted to normal, sweet-looking guys in sweaters. I'm finished with the leather trousers and eyeliner types. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]"You can have a rollercoaster ride with a nice guy in a sweater." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]5 FEISTY QUESTIONS[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]WHO WOULD YOU LOVE TO DO A STRIPTEASE FOR?
"Prince. He's amazing. I recently met him and he said he wanted to see my show. I'd love him to come!" [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]WHO'S THE LAST GUY YOU CALLED ON YOUR MOBILE?
"A musician called Patrick. No romance. He's working on my Crazy Horse show." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]WHO LOOKS BETTER NAKED, A MAN OR A WOMAN?
"I'd prefer to see a woman strip on stage, but in my bedroom it would have to be a man!" [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]LIFE OR DEATH… WOULD YOU WEAR GRANNY BASHER KNICKERS OR HOLEY TIGHTS?
"Big knickers, definitely. If I have the tiniest hole in my tights then I have to go home and change them. It's an obsession with me." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]WHAT PIECE OF MAKE-UP WOULD YOU TAKE TO A DESERT ISLAND?
"Red lipstick. It's so adaptable - you could use it on your lips, cheeks and to pink up your nipples if you met a hot native. It could also come in handy for a rescue note."[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]LUST LESSONS[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]FIND YOUR INNER SEXINESS "A lot of people confuse the idea of being sexy with an image of how they think they should look. There's no one way to be sexy. I feel most sexy in stockings, garters and gorgeous lingerie, but that's not because I think men will like it - it's what I like. Everyone is different, so work out what makes you feel most sexy and go with it. Variety is the spice of life." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]GOOD LIGHTING "It's totally essential. To look your best you have to have good lighting. Fix a dimmer switch in the bedroom and play with the settings. I have dimmers in all my rooms." BE AN EXPERT "I like to be adventurous in the bedroom, but want to know what I'm doing. I read Nina Hartley's Guide To Total Sex all the time. Nina was a famous p*rn star who experienced every kind of sex, then wrote all about it, detail by detail. It's the best book about sex ever." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]SMILE! "When a man pictures his woman in his head he'll always remember when she's laughing and smiling, not necessarily when she's trying her hardest to look sexy. If you feel happy and comfortable, then you're more likely to feel sexy - even if it's in your skinny jeans and boots, or short skirt. Just let yourself go." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]DON'T DISMISS 'VANILLA' SEX "Normal or conventional sex can be just as good as adventurous sex. You should never feel like you are under pressure to perform. When someone's trying to impress you, it doesn't work. It's better to let one thing lead to another naturally, so you're more relaxed." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]PICK YOUR FANTASIES "When I was younger I used to think I'd be the best girlfriend I could and invite a female friend for a threesome, but it always backfired. I'd suggest thinking about other ways to make sex exciting. And remember, it's OK to keep some fantasies as just that." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]EXPECT A BIT OF TORTURE "Is he going to call? Isn't he? Does he like me? Doesn't he? Every girl goes through it - whether you're Kate Moss or the girl next door. Accept it as part of the excitement of being with a guy and enjoy it." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]BE A GIRL'S GIRL "There are two types of women - those who prey on taken men, and those who don't. The first group are not sexy because they don't have any confidence or self-esteem. I love men but I'm a girl's girl, which may be one reason Jennifer Lopez asked me to perform for her husband, Marc Anthony, and why the singer Fergie booked me for her husband's stag party. They know they can trust me. There's nothing sexy about hitting on another woman's man, it's just mean-spirited."[/FONT]
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