softgrey said:
well...
NOT buying kids stuff can backfire later as well...
my parents never 'gave' us anything...
we always had to earn it...
and if they simply didn't think it was important for us to have 'whatever it was'...
the answer was simply 'no'...
i am still buying stuff to make up for all the stuff my parents said no to...
even they now say that they are sorry they bought us so few toys...
and didn't indulge us a bit more...
You know , Soft
I can relate SO much to what you have said here .
I too loved beautiful design , having been brought up by a mother who consumed the contents of ALL the VOGUES , and modelled herself on such luminaries as Barbara Goalen and Bettina . ( Not that she ever got to buy their clothes , merely having to put up with line for line copies of the Paris designer toiles , made up by WALLIS , a ladieswear firm that specialised in legal copies of ' the best ' .) She even went as far as lionising such American greats such as Bonnie Cashin , Norman Norell and Charles James .
Having been awoken to line , cut , charisma and the idea of exclusivity , it was very hard on me to be denied clothes that would have reflected my growing ' taste ' , honed on such phenomena as Yves Saint Laurent's revolutionary ' beat ' collection for Christian Dior , before he was hounded out of that house .
That's why I feel guilty for chasing the ' chimera ' of perfect designer clothes in the hunt to buy myself all the things that I wanted .
It really IS a world in which materialism has taken over , and I feel guilty when I think that I have bought into it in being so self - indulgent .
Who was it that went to Paris to seek out the ' vainglories ' of the Montana boutique , rather drinking in the heritage of Notre Dame , The Louvre , Versailles , FIRST ? !!!!
I have succumbed to the opiate of the masses , bought into the consumer society , but I suppose , in mitigation , it's probably slightly better than leading a gin-sodden life of oblivion as the ' great unwashed ' ( where lie my roots ) did in Victorian times , or fall for all consuming fundamentalist religious fervour or seeing in some totalitarian political idealogy the answer to everything .
We live in a superficial world , generally , more's the pity , but I suppose there could be a worse one . It helps to be aware of this and of one's own character , at the same time ; me being a male UK designer - fashion Freak , or someone else , equally as self - aware , not a million miles from TFS , known to me as ' the crazy high - fashion cheetah from Nolita ' !!!!!
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