i've had friends through the years copying my style. i find it quite annoying since personal style is very important to me. i think it's completely different when strangers ask you about something you're wearing because they're not the ones that are next to me every day. i always think it's a little ridiculous when friends are wearing the exact same thing when they're together.
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i can't say i care if others copy my style. i don't put enough effort into what i wear to warrant me being grumpy about others wanting to wear the same clothes. i like to just throw on whatever i'm really loving, the more clothes/colours the better, and have fun with what i wear. if i were to worry about which friends were buying the clothes i'm wearing, i don't think it'd be as much fun.
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that's basically how i feel about it...
but sometimes is still annoying even if you get credit for it cause if your goal is to look individual, it sort of defeats the purpose if someone you hang out with is always sporting the same style...
especially cause outsiders will never know that SHE copied it from YOU...
they might think you copied it...or more likely..that neither one of you is very original...
so- yeah...
i'm not crazy about it...no matter what...
unless it's someone i don't hang out with very often or who lives far away...
then i don't care and actually think it's kind of cute and fun..
I have a friend who has admitted to me that she likes my style and gets inspiration from what I wear. Back in high school, she went to a uniformed school but they would have occasional civics days where they were allowed to wear regular clothes, so I would lend her mine. One day I was at her house trying to help her pick an outfit and I saw a pair of pants that looked exactly like a pair I had except hers looked homemade. I turned to her and her face went red and went "I liked your patchwork jeans so much, I made my own!" It was cute and I wasn't mad at all.
The only thing that upsets me is when your copycat friend will insult what you're wearing and a week later, you'll see them in that same outfit. I have a friend who is constantly criticizing what I wear and months later you'll see her trying to wear the same clothes.
The only thing that upsets me is when your copycat friend will insult what you're wearing and a week later, you'll see them in that same outfit. I have a friend who is constantly criticizing what I wear and months later you'll see her trying to wear the same clothes.
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OK, here's an idea ... what about grabbing a stack of cards from a therapist's office, and handing them out to your copycats, explaining that the therapist specializes in identity issues? 
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I have had the EXACT same problem with someone- not a close friend, but the wife of my husbands friend. And this girl is nuts, not only with personal style but all of a sudden she even claims to like my hobbies and goes way overboard with it! It's almost stalker-ish! What do I do? I just disclose as little as possible...and laugh it all off... after all, she's the one with the issues, not me.
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You can't help that you are fabulous!
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I have this girl at my school who I noticed would look me up and down everytime I walked into class. She would just stare... anyways I just noticed that when I would wear something she would buy it within that week. and the clothes she chooses to buy after me are always the clothes that I wear when I'm desperate and late for school.
Idk, i guess I'll quote Elvis on this "Imitation is the greatest form of flattery"
Idk, i guess I'll quote Elvis on this "Imitation is the greatest form of flattery"
I dont have a defined style in order for it to be copied, however my friend had a very strange issue last year.
My friend, D, went to uni with her friend, C. One day D wore a certain outfit. C asked D where she'd bought the top from, D told her (it was just from a department store). The following week C turns up in the same jeans, top, flats and even accessories!! She styled her hair the same way and everything.
D was annoyed. I think in that situation its a bit odd, but taking inspiration from someone elses outfit is not a bad thing, but totally replicating it.. bit strange!
My friend, D, went to uni with her friend, C. One day D wore a certain outfit. C asked D where she'd bought the top from, D told her (it was just from a department store). The following week C turns up in the same jeans, top, flats and even accessories!! She styled her hair the same way and everything.
D was annoyed. I think in that situation its a bit odd, but taking inspiration from someone elses outfit is not a bad thing, but totally replicating it.. bit strange!
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I was copied in highschool which I find really funny because I think I had awful style until I was about 16 but it was unusual so that gives reason to copy. We had uniforms and I would wear to boys shirts about a gazillion sizes to big and then make all of my uniform skirts skin tight pencil skirts and then go crazy with the footwear. I hope that did not sound to egotistical.
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I have had the EXACT same problem with someone- not a close friend, but the wife of my husbands friend. And this girl is nuts, not only with personal style but all of a sudden she even claims to like my hobbies and goes way overboard with it! It's almost stalker-ish! What do I do? I just disclose as little as possible...and laugh it all off... after all, she's the one with the issues, not me.
You can't help that you are fabulous!
That one's awkward because your husband's friendship is involved ... I'd say if this friendship is important to him, what you're doing is just about right.
Have you tried telling her about "new" hobbies that you haven't really taken up yet?
You know ... hang-gliding, sky-diving, climbing Mt Everest ...
Or dressing a different way when you're going to be around her ... e.g., happy hooker? You know how you might wear something low cut OR fishnets OR wild shoes ... when you're going to be seeing her, you could just put it all together into one brand new fabulous look. You might even succeed in scaring her into looking for a new person to 'flatter'
Just think, this could be so much fun ... the blind following the blind ...
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That one's awkward because your husband's friendship is involved ... I'd say if this friendship is important to him, what you're doing is just about right.
Have you tried telling her about "new" hobbies that you haven't really taken up yet?
You know ... hang-gliding, sky-diving, climbing Mt Everest ...
Or dressing a different way when you're going to be around her ... e.g., happy hooker? You know how you might wear something low cut OR fishnets OR wild shoes ... when you're going to be seeing her, you could just put it all together into one brand new fabulous look. You might even succeed in scaring her into looking for a new person to 'flatter'
Just think, this could be so much fun ... the blind following the blind ...
Lol!! I love it!
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^ Someone totally needs to try it & report back 
I would absolutely do it myself, but I have no imitators of late ...
I would absolutely do it myself, but I have no imitators of late ...
What would you do yourself, if your friend bought for example a dress, which appeared to be the dress of your dreams? Would you avoid buying it just because your friend happened to buy it before you?
And is it only copying if it is exactly the same thing? What if your friend owns a biker leather jacket - a style which you can get from many different brands - would that prevent you from buying one from another brand?
And is it only copying if it is exactly the same thing? What if your friend owns a biker leather jacket - a style which you can get from many different brands - would that prevent you from buying one from another brand?
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I freely admit I became influenced and even copied someone else when I first started college. I encountered such a wide variety of people from different cities, states, walks-of-life, etc. It was both out of inspiration and insecurity because hey, I was barely 18- what did I really know about myself then?
In a way I see it as a rite of self-discovery; whereas I'd been a copier once I was also copied on other occasions. I think people do evolve and come to their own. That, or they just allow themselves to be dictated by designers (I notice they tend to become the Marc Jacobs victims
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In a way I see it as a rite of self-discovery; whereas I'd been a copier once I was also copied on other occasions. I think people do evolve and come to their own. That, or they just allow themselves to be dictated by designers (I notice they tend to become the Marc Jacobs victims
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^ Someone totally needs to try it & report back
I would absolutely do it myself, but I have no imitators of late ...
I will try it if it happens to me again, but I pretty much got rid of my problem by deleting her from my contacts on Facebook, email, etc...and I rarely talk to her otherwise! I'm sure someone else is bound to come along though...I have had this problem on and off my whole life...lol.
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Recently, I've asked myself if it is my fault. Could it be? The saddest thing is that after it happened twice, I was only keen to the people who had their own style and therefore, wouldn't try to copy me-or so I thought. Little did I know..
The thing that annoys me the most is when they think they understood it, but fail miserably. On the one hand is good, because they cannot copy me, but it still bothers me (they were supposedly my friends, but they never got me in any sense whatsoever, not my style or my mind, I keep repeating that copying is beyond despicable and there they go). Moreover when other people say we dress the same, situation that can lead to a nuclear burst, get away from me as far as you can..
The thing that annoys me the most is when they think they understood it, but fail miserably. On the one hand is good, because they cannot copy me, but it still bothers me (they were supposedly my friends, but they never got me in any sense whatsoever, not my style or my mind, I keep repeating that copying is beyond despicable and there they go). Moreover when other people say we dress the same, situation that can lead to a nuclear burst, get away from me as far as you can..
