Chris Brown arrested and sentenced for domestic violence

[FASHIONLOVA]

I think Rihannas parents are to blame for her going back...her dad supports her choice to go back to Chris. wtf?! really stupid IMO

i guess there s something in this story that we don t know about.

 

[LUXXX]

Yeah, I agree...where are her parents in all of this? Especially her mother, I know she is estranged from her father for the most part. Wasn't she taught anything about self-worth?

If a man puts you in the hospital, you do not go crawling back because he says he loves you. She needs to watch The Rainmaker.

 

[eternitygoddess]

When you do really love someone with your entire heart you just don't want to lose them.

I don't call it love in this situation. More like a sick dependency.

That photo is gross. Never had a good opinion of CB.

This whole situation is sickening. At this rate, if she gets beaten up again, I will not be feeling sorry for her because she chose to be receptive to violence.

 

[Kimkhuu]

While I do not deny the role of biology in human behavior, upbringing and social pressures are far more influential factors imo.

Totally agree with Harumi on this. We are who we are because of of past, it is the simple math of cause to effect. We are directly influenced by our surroundings.

Why did Chris act this way? Because he grew up seeing the domestic violence his dad caused to his mother.

As simple as that.

 

[eternitygoddess]

if he really had hurt her she would NEVER ever go back to him. if she really thought that what he did is wrong, she should ve said something to all the girls out there who look up to her, like let s say, be a strong woman and don t go back to the jerk who beat u.

That is a very naive and uneducated statement.

Research on domestic abuse shows that the reason women so often go back has little to do with severity of injuries and mostly do with sick psychological factors.

Many tsf-ers have posted on the psychological angle, so I won't be writing anything. I will quote the following posted by Kimkhuu

REMORSE/HONEYMOON PHASE

*After the attack takes place, there
is a return to some sense of calmness.
The abuser may promise it will never
happen again, act apologetic and
loving and beg for forgiveness.

*Since their relationship has been
deteriorating, the abuser’s loving
behaviour is very important to the
victim. It reinforces the victim’s
hope that the abuser can change.

*Guilt also plays a role. The victim
feels responsible for her abuser’s
behaviour and the abuser’s future
welfare. For example, she may feel
that if she leaves, she’ll be breaking
up the home.

It doesn’t get better – it only gets
worse. The cycle cannot be broken
without outside help.

Women who get beaten within an inch of their lives will still go back to their abusers. It has NOTHING to do with how much they've been hurt.

 

[lady B]

i guess there s something in this story that we don t know about.

Definitly !

It's in his best interest to get back with Rihanna.Because if she forgives him then the public will aswell.I'm pretty much 100% sure that she's being manipulated and used.And I wouldn't be suprised if they were money involved.She can't be that dumb,that's not possible

 

[Les_Sucettes]

I'm actually quite shocked with this thread, it opened my eyes, I never thought that people still hold some of the opinion I've read in here. I thought that no one with a bit of intelligence would dare justify the actions of a women beater or in any way minimize this situation. I've been pretty naive. All of this saddens me actually.

 

[saka]

Rihanna and Chris Brown Hunker Down to Work Through Issues

Rihanna and Chris Brown are "definitely together" and focusing on a reconciliation, a source tells PEOPLE.

The pair, who are currently spending time together at Sean "Diddy" Combs's house on Miami Beach's Star Island, are staying indoors as they hash things out.


"They are definitely together and care a great deal about each other," says a Miami source. "They feel like staying in and working through their issues. So far they have not wanted to go out."

Brown, however, did venture out earlier on his own. On Thursday he hit the water to Jet Ski with pals.

Rihanna and Brown's reconciliation comes nearly three weeks after Brown, 19, allegedly battered the "Umbrella" singer on Feb. 8.







people.com

 

[fashionista-ta]

Chris Brown Strikes the Pose

Chris Brown had a blast on a jet ski Thursday in Miami, where he's spending time with Rihanna -- the woman he allegedly beat just weeks earlier.

Chris -- who looks like he's recreating the wind up leading to the punch that left Rihanna bloodied and bruised -- doesn't seem to have a care in the world.

And here's an interesting tidbit -- Rihanna is being shadowed by one of Jay Z's beefy bodyguards.

tmz.com

I am super pleased to hear the bit about the bodyguard. Jay Z is about 1000x the man her father is, I'm thinking.

 

[fashionista-ta]

Definitly !

It's in his best interest to get back with Rihanna.Because if she forgives him then the public will aswell.I'm pretty much 100% sure that she's being manipulated and used.And I wouldn't be suprised if they were money involved.She can't be that dumb,that's not possible

There is money involved ... as many people have pointed out here, all of her lucrative endorsements are at risk.

Her motivation is more powerful than money, clearly. And as I have said ... being dumb has nothing to do with it. I know some very smart women who have spent substantial chunks of their lives with abusive men.

 

[fashionista-ta]

Totally agree with Harumi on this. We are who we are because of of past, it is the simple math of cause to effect. We are directly influenced by our surroundings.

Why did Chris act this way? Because he grew up seeing the domestic violence his dad caused to his mother.

As simple as that.

I don't think it's quite that simple, because there are plenty of men who've witnessed domestic violence who aren't violent themselves. It's not a + b = c.

If this were true, then he would be more or less justified. But I know for a fact it's not true.

 

[fashionista-ta]

I don't call it love in this situation. More like a sick dependency.

That photo is gross. Never had a good opinion of CB.

This whole situation is sickening. At this rate, if she gets beaten up again, I will not be feeling sorry for her because she chose to be receptive to violence.

I feel compassion for her ... it's a terrible thing not to know in the very core of your being that you deserve better than this. And that you should never love anyone else more than you love yourself.

 

[jennifer~]

Why did Chris act this way? Because he grew up seeing the domestic violence his dad caused to his mother.

As simple as that.

If a person were actually Chris Brown - if they were him genetically, had the same upbringing and had the same inclination to react the way Chris Brown himself reacted to the exact same events that occurred in his life - I believe they would find their actions in this matter identical as well (however horrific). Jail won't make him a better person - but I'm rather unsympathetic to the plight of him just being an unfortunate person and figure, why not? Unless there were an institution that could actually rehabilitate him... He should be stopped, ideals aside, and I don't think the negative media attention will be incentive enough. If she'd died (let's say it wasn't even due to his involvement) and he were seen just jet-skiing shortly afterward, people would be appalled. But he basically beat her half to death *himself* and.../

 

[Kimkhuu]

I don't think it's quite that simple, because there are plenty of men who've witnessed domestic violence who aren't violent themselves. It's not a + b = c.

If this were true, then he would be more or less justified. But I know for a fact it's not true.

I am not saying EVERY kid who've witnessed domestic violence one day become abusers. Every person has there own life, and when I say we are directly influenced by our environment I mean it.

Kids who have witnessed domestic violence and rejected it is also because of other aspects of their environment, their education, surroundings discouraged them to follow that path.

 

[Caffeine]

it's so disturbing. she is asking for more beating I guess. Well, if she enjoys, she can have as much as she wants. It's unbelievable!
Men who beat women will never stop. Period.

 

[Caffeine]

I won't have any sympathy on her in the future.

 

[fashionista-ta]

I am not saying EVERY kid who've witnessed domestic violence one day become abusers. Every person has there own life, and when I say we are directly influenced by our environment I mean it.

Kids who have witnessed domestic violence and rejected it is also because of other aspects of their environment, their education, surroundings discouraged them to follow that path.

I am not sure why of two children who witness it, one becomes violent, and another not. I have seen the split in the same family with siblings. If I had to guess, though, I would say the difference comes from within.

 

[eternitygoddess]

Combination of nature vs. nurture.

 

[Harumi]

I feel compassion for her ... it's a terrible thing not to know in the very core of your being that you deserve better than this. And that you should never love anyone else more than you love yourself.

And yet you will not feel compassionate for Chris when he hits her again.
It could be argued that Chris is a victim too: of his upbringing, of his testosterone, of his distorted sense of worth (abusers don't really love themselves either).
Why condemn him with such harsh words and give Rihanna a free pass?
She was innocent when she got first hit but not when she returned to the scene of the crime and became an enabler. She is now full part of the abusive system, oxytocin or not.
Yes, Chris needs therapy to treat his obvious psychological troubles but so does Rihanna and so far there is no indication she is taking any step.
There is enough studies, testimonies, information and help out there for her to be able to take her destiny into her own hands if that ever was her intention, and unlike many women trapped in abusive situations she had the finantial back-up and public support to help her cope.
I know the process is long and arduous but she isn't even trying. At least Chris is taking anger management classes (though I'm sure he didn't sign up on his own)...

It would just be hypocritical of me to write the things I wrote about Chris and continue to support Rihanna and her equally appalling and irresponsible behavior.

And as I have said ... being dumb has nothing to do with it.

You don't have to be dumb to do daft things. Her behavior is abysmally stupid.

 

[Harumi]

Sorry for the double post but I just realised they are at Didy's home. How fitting.
I'm sure Diddy's has been giving Chris pointers on how not to get caught next time. He would now.