Chris Brown arrested and sentenced for domestic violence

[Working Girl]

He father wasn't around. And he doesn't want to judge considering he probably has a shady past. For him to play daddy now is a little to late. There is nothing he can do but offer his love to her and be there for her when she needs him.

Anyways, I would never have thought that Whitney would divorce Bobby. She finally saw the light. It takes some women a little bit longer to leave.

 

[eternitygoddess]

Some women also die in that length of time.

 

[Kamelot]

What I find interesting are all these leaks seem to be in the hope of repairing Chris Brown's reputation. Then I see these jet ski of an idiot who has no clue about public relation and media perception.

On the other hand, we have yet to hear or see Rihanna, me think this is a legal related meeting between Chris and Rihanna's people to see if they can settle out of court and less to do with romance.

And yet you will not feel compassionate for Chris when he hits her again.
It could be argued that Chris is a victim too: of his upbringing, of his testosterone, of his distorted sense of worth (abusers don't really love themselves either).
Why condemn him with such harsh words and give Rihanna a free pass?
She was innocent when she got first hit but not when she returned to the scene of the crime and became an enabler. She is now full part of the abusive system, oxytocin or not.
Yes, Chris needs therapy to treat his obvious psychological troubles but so does Rihanna and so far there is no indication she is taking any step.
There is enough studies, testimonies, information and help out there for her to be able to take her destiny into her own hands if that ever was her intention, and unlike many women trapped in abusive situations she had the finantial back-up and public support to help her cope.
I know the process is long and arduous but she isn't even trying. At least Chris is taking anger management classes (though I'm sure he didn't sign up on his own)...

It would just be hypocritical of me to write the things I wrote about Chris and continue to support Rihanna and her equally appalling and irresponsible behavior.
You don't have to be dumb to do daft things. Her behavior is abysmally stupid.

I don't see how we can ever justify feeling 'compassion' for the person who commits a crime against anyone. Its like saying we should feel compassion with wife beaters, r*pist and serial killers because majority of them had a ****ed up upbringing that messed up their life. Compassion is human condition to feel for the person on the receiving end, not the one delivering such abuse or crime.

Heck, I would feel some compassion for Chris who is only 19 if he demonstrated actual remorse, not let his pr leak some fake reconciliation, while he's seen jet skiing. It shows a man who knows no remorse or compassion and willful in his action. Compassion is earned when it comes to criminals, not given when the behavior shows otherwise.

However, I agree that Rihanna is psychologically disturbed if she gets back to him and will be responsibile for her own abusive condition, but that will never absolve Chris crimes in the eyes of the law or society. The same way that a prostitute who is raped is not responsible for her rapest, so does someone in violent relationship. Its typical of abused women and children to go back if there are no strong support.

I will condemn Chris because he has shown in his action a lack of responsibility and remorse, but I will not condemn Rihanna for getting a beat down from a boyfriend. Heck, I'll even give her the benefit of the doubt since she's not strutting around in her bikini with Chris, rather in hiding for whatever reason.

 

[lady B]

And yet you will not feel compassionate for Chris
You don't have to be dumb to do daft things. Her behavior is abysmally stupid.

That's what I was trying to say.I mean come on now,it's not like this relation was only about the two of them and nobody else.They're living in the public eye,she has the majority of the world supporting her,by saying that, what Chris did is wrong.

She was press covered like crazy.I haven't see this kind of press coverage since Britney shave her head.And still she finds the way of coming back with him like nothing never happened.Not a lot of people have the "chance" that she had (I'm talking about press coverage and financial support).

All of this should have open her eyes.It's not ok to love someone who beat you.I mean the guy completly Mike Tysonned her, it's not like he simply smack her on the shoulder (and even that wouldn't acceptable).

Like Harumi said her bahavior is absolutly ridiculous.So I think I'm done with talking about those two.They worth each other !

 

[McClaire]

Anyways, I would never have thought that Whitney would divorce Bobby. She finally saw the light. It takes some women a little bit longer to leave.

Dear God lets hope Rihanna wont take it to that level.
But,I mean cant you learn from others mistakes?like Whitney and Bobby?

 

[Jacque Marcel]

Ugh, this is really sickening and quite sad. But if she wants to get back with that abusive douchebag and roll with the punches, (pun very much intended) then let her.

 

[LegsXI]

what is she doing back with him? It will happen again

 

[LUXXX]

I just can't believe how arrogant he is acting, and her going back to him gives him the license to do so. He's basically flaunting the fact that he could beat up his girlfriend in such a violent way and still get away with it. Clearly not caring about his career, or being too delusional to notice all the damage...Rihanna must be the same way. They both need psychological help, as do the people who work for them.

 

[XxpinktinksxX]

what is she doing back with him? It will happen again

It totally will. They are always full of promises that 'it will never happen again'. Although if he is getting the right help i.e anger management or whatever help he intends to get. I'm sure that will help him. He's still a boy a immature boy whos got lots of growing up to do. Grown men do not behave in that way with the woman they are supposed to love. I do feel so sorry for Rihanna she obviously loves him a whole lot. I know it's hard for people to understand why on earth she's gone back to him but it's so hard to walk away from someone you love with all of your heart. No matter what they have done. She did have a chance to get out and stay out of the relationship she's got people who love and support her who obviously didn't want her to get back with him but she's her own person. I do believe in karma and it can be such a b*tch. He will get what he deserves.

 

[Kimkhuu]

I am not sure why of two children who witness it, one becomes violent, and another not. I have seen the split in the same family with siblings. If I had to guess, though, I would say the difference comes from within.

Dear, that "within" you're referring to has to do with what they've been through while growing up. We're not SOLELY influenced by family, we're influenced by society, media, by the neighborhood we grew up in, by our social network (coworkers, friends, teachers, boyfriends/girlfriends), etc.

That's what differentiates children that were witnesses of domestic violence, to one day become abusers themselves, or not.

 

[hfgl]

Chris Brown Strikes the Pose

Chris Brown had a blast on a jet ski Thursday in Miami, where he's spending time with Rihanna -- the woman he allegedly beat just weeks earlier.

Chris -- who looks like he's recreating the wind up leading to the punch that left Rihanna bloodied and bruised -- doesn't seem to have a care in the world.

And here's an interesting tidbit -- Rihanna is being shadowed by one of Jay Z's beefy bodyguards.

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That picture of him...flexing his muscles,looking like he is about to punch someone....what...the...****.Most ******** person i've come across in a while.There are no words...i mean Jesus...Please Rhianna,go AWAY from him.Does he look like he has remorse?I'm on the verge of tears here.

 

[MeMe7]

why is this world filled with stupid women???, i really hope they aren't back together.

 

[eternitygoddess]

Dear, that "within" you're referring to has to do with what they've been through while growing up. We're not SOLELY influenced by family, we're influenced by society, media, by the neighborhood we grew up in, by our social network (coworkers, friends, teachers, boyfriends/girlfriends), etc.

That's what differentiates children that were witnesses of domestic violence, to one day become abusers themselves, or not.

Inherent nature also plays a big part. For example, social network, is in part, a reflection of a person's innate personality.

 

[LUXXX]

Reports are starting to filter out that Chris has been clubbing in Miami without Rihanna. I wonder if she had second thoughts...

 

[fashionista-ta]

And yet you will not feel compassionate for Chris when he hits her again.
It could be argued that Chris is a victim too: of his upbringing, of his testosterone, of his distorted sense of worth (abusers don't really love themselves either).
Why condemn him with such harsh words and give Rihanna a free pass?
She was innocent when she got first hit but not when she returned to the scene of the crime and became an enabler. She is now full part of the abusive system, oxytocin or not.
Yes, Chris needs therapy to treat his obvious psychological troubles but so does Rihanna and so far there is no indication she is taking any step.
There is enough studies, testimonies, information and help out there for her to be able to take her destiny into her own hands if that ever was her intention, and unlike many women trapped in abusive situations she had the finantial back-up and public support to help her cope.
I know the process is long and arduous but she isn't even trying. At least Chris is taking anger management classes (though I'm sure he didn't sign up on his own)...

It would just be hypocritical of me to write the things I wrote about Chris and continue to support Rihanna and her equally appalling and irresponsible behavior.
You don't have to be dumb to do daft things. Her behavior is abysmally stupid.

No, I do not feel compassion for Chris. Perhaps if I were a bit more saintly, I would My own take on the world is such that I have pretty much zero tolerance for abusers. It's a good thing

Sure you could argue that Chris is a victim--his own people have been doing it day and night.

What good does it do to condemn and judge Rihanna for the way she's behaving? I would argue that she is trying, though she is trying to do absolutely the wrong thing from my perspective ... apparently she is talking to Chris, trying to work it out.

And what is he doing? Out on jet skis posing for the paparazzi, flexing and doing his nasty SOB scowl pose. You call that trying?!

I think the best way to support a woman in this situation is to let them know you love them, and how much you believe, how absolutely certain you are that they deserve better than what they are choosing. How much you want them to be safe and have a good life. But judging, condemning, abandoning ... I don't see how that can possibly help.

 

[fashionista-ta]

Inherent nature also plays a big part. For example, social network, is in part, a reflection of a person's innate personality.

Yes, this is what I was trying to say. Personally I think I had already learned when I got here (to this life) that violence accomplishes nothing, and I think that's why I've never been a violent person. My brother, too, has always made a point of avoiding violence. I think you can witness violence or any other dysfunction & make a conscious decision that that is not how you want to live your life.

 

[carmen_kass]

Well whereas I don't think Chris and Rihanna will last the distance, mostly because one will drop out of the spot light before the other and I don't think the jaded one will carry the dead weight of the faded one (they seem kinda fickle to me)... I do think that Chris being so young and being capable of doing this is scary because, he probably feels that he got away with it once and so if this kind of instance happens again with another woman he wont think much of it because he got away with it the first time by sweet talking her and showering her with diamonds. He may internalise that violence towards women is excusible because it comes with negligable consequences, and getting away with it just increases his arrogance. If someone's ego is inflated enough to be posing like that on a jet ski and passing comments to the affect of "look after your boy", it sickens me because he should be mortified and apologising left right and centre, instead he's coming across as boastful of his acomplishments, like "get over it, it was just a little slap, you can see she had it coming".

 

[fashionista-ta]

^ Compare and contrast the behavior you summarize very well with the account of Terrence Howard (not exactly God's best work in the male department ), who was still there when the police arrived, and clearly shocked at his own behavior and honest about what he'd done.

 

[eternitygoddess]

I do think that Chris being so young and being capable of doing this is scary because, he probably feels that he got away with it once and so if this kind of instance happens again with another woman he wont think much of it because he got away with it the first time by sweet talking her and showering her with diamonds. He may internalise that violence towards women is excusible because it comes with negligable consequences, and getting away with it just increases his arrogance. If someone's ego is inflated enough to be posing like that on a jet ski and passing comments to the affect of "look after your boy", it sickens me because he should be mortified and apologising left right and centre, instead he's coming across as boastful of his acomplishments, like "get over it, it was just a little slap, you can see she had it coming".

AGREED.

From this incident, he's learned that money+fame+publicity team can get him out of anything.

He's learned the wrong lesson.

 

[fashionista-ta]

^ Well, it ain't over yet. The justice system has not yet had its say.